Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am very sorry to know about this situation.
Could you please clarify what your husband is asking you to do? He wants you to leave your own home?
How could he ask you to do such a thing, isn't it your house and aren't you still married?
yes him and my daughter don't want me to live with them
If he-they are making statements about things that never happened, like saying that you stated you were going to kill her, this is very serious, and would be abuse if you never said that, it would make sense to think they are trying to manipulate you and justify their actions.
yes I know but they both said I said it to her twice and they are both saying I did. how can I say I didn't I don't remember
Have you had this very dysfunctional relationship with them for long for them to do this against you?
ever telling her that. she does shopping with me and everywhere. but he never told me that she was afraid and locks her
door until that night on 9/11 he told me he did't love me and it was over.
yes he retired in 2008 and he become the mom and dad while I worked. so she got very close to him and they always kept me at arms length. he always side with her over me.
I you did nit say something, then nobody should state you did, but if you do not remember, having doubts about what you said, then they could justify it happened
I told I would never say that to her I ask them both when did I say it what were the circumstances why I would say that
I am very sorry to know about this serioussituation
my daughter doesn't remember why it happened
or my husband
what should I do, he has even convinced my other kids and they all are siding with them.
its funny she is spending the whole day with me alone tomorrow without her father
I see, then to use such words nobody remembers clearly well when and under which circumstances they were stated, would be very abusive, and could never justify their decision to push you to leave your own home, that is very abusive and unacceptable
It's concerning that all your adult children have believed such a thing, why you think it has been that way?
I think so they are trying to think I am crazy or something.
don't know I was always the disaplimentary parent and he was always the fun dad, he did this situation with our son he would side with him, he told my husband that I kept his balls in a jar on the mantel.
I do not suggest you to leave for sure, but it would be necessary to find a good attorney in order to get necessary support, since their plans are very serious and you do not want to be expose to any form of further abuse or manipulation by them, since the behaviors you describe here are very serious.
I did go down to my mom but left everything there I shower there and dress and take my daughter to school in the morning.
I work he is retired and drives a school bus.
That would make sense, when a parent spoil children while the other has to take the full work and responsibility for providing adequate discipline and good education, children grow believing the neglectful parent who spoil them is the good guy who loves them, while the other who sets boundaries and discipline is the man one
what to do put camera in the house to see what there up to
You could do that, and have audio recordings too, if you truly believe they are trying to hurt you, since that would be concrete evidence of any form of emotional and verbal abuse.
Please get a good attorney for him/her to support you on what would be the best approach to take good care of yourself and effectively cope with this very serious situation.
Does it make sense?
Good, please take gentle care and consistent action getting the support you need to effectively cope with this situation. Thank you for your trust.