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Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am sorry to know about your friend's situation
What you say makes total sense, a woman does not need to have a job in order to move to a safer place if she happens to have necessary support to do so, specially having the children's well-being as a priority.
She says that she is afraid he would try to take their children away from him. That's a valid concern but would only become an issue if they have no clear custodial rights set, and if she has serious problems that could justify her ex-husband actions to get full custody of their children.
Does it make sense?
She just keeps telling him that her social worker tells her she needs a job to leave but in my eyes if the house she lives in now have mold in areas an he doesn't take care of them she should be able to leave even if she has a job or not. Am I right?
In the States, the mother uses to have more support by the law whenever it is about children's custody in many states, unless she presents serious issues undermining her ability to do so, as just stated, like by having legal issues, mental health problems, substance abuse issues, or inability to take good care of them because of history of neglect or abuse.
Not having material-financial means to take good care of them could be a reasonable factor too, but if she has a stable partner or a support system capable and willing of helping her in this area, then it should not be an issue at all.
So she is full of shit basically an doesn't want to leave her ex?
I do not know, as I explained, it depends on her specific situation, if there is no concrete issue that could justify her fears around not having financial means to support them and if there is no real problem around keeping their custody, then she would be using excuses not to leave her ex-husband.
That would be the reasonable and realistic conclusion in a scenario like the one you depict.
Ok thank you