Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am sorry to know about this frustrating situation.
What you describe here is very sad and frustarting, since it shows this person has not be playing a healthy role in your life.
Form the very beginning his actions, attitudes, reactions and words showed a lot of immaturity, lack of respect, and then very neglectful and abusive behaviors
Reality is that this person seems like he never truly loved nor cared about you but used you, in very selfish and hurtful ways.
Otherwise he would never have done the things he did
You did lie one time and something that was not relevant but hid abusive patterns have been very serious and for you not to see that is very concerning since shows how easily you could expose yourself to be used, abused and neglected.
But you did not know how to choose and cope with it
You have been very naive and vulnerable
I believe you have serious self-esteem issues and possibly suffer of codependency too, which led to the depression after the abuse you underwent by him
I think this overwhelmingly painful experience as tough as it is is much better than you getting used, abused and neglected by this distorted person even longer, since that would have brought much more suffering and wound in your life.
Because he is a very dysfunctional, destructive and abusive person.
You just happened to become his victim, but now you could heal and grow from this wiser and stronger for you not to expose nothing like this again in your life.
Please commit to your individual therapy and join a support group for codependency in case you were not already participating in one, and get all your family and healthy friends' support.
You bet you will, you are already working on it, just stick to it, being unconditionally gentle, understanding, patient, supportive and loving with yourself, specially when facing painful times.
Thank you for your trust>please feel free to contact me as necessary since I am here willing to support you.
Perfect, that's an excellent book.
I am very happy to know that. Thank you for trusting me this much.
Take gentle care and consistent action.
Thanks! Bye for now :o)
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