I know that so well and am even telling myself this as he is raging. IN THE MOMENT I am telling myself not to give him the satisfaction. But, I cant always do that and feel sane.
DOES HE RELALLY WANT ME ABUSING HIN LIKE HE IS DOING TO ME? Ultimately he wants control. But, in this case, he got more than he bargained for. Whatt I mean is, the all out dragged out explanation and criticism from me in the end couldnt be what he bargained for. Could he really be enjoying all this? its enjoyable to have your wife tell you whats wrong with you and constantly set limits? The way I needed to talk to him today would make anyone feel small. Only a sadist would enjoy this. Im baffled.
He will never be ready to change. Thank you Kate, he gets attention. Its funny because that's one of the things I told him today. I told him that I couldn't imagine what kind of environment his grew up in where he had to act aggressive or withdrawal. His pattern.
:) have a good weekend. He went away on business today. Yipee