Hi and welcome. I am a Licensed Master Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families on a variety of issues.
My gut on this would suggest that you be cautious...even if things weren't great between he and his wife back then he was still not doing right by his wife and kids by texting you and building some feelings.
so the question for you becomes is that the kind of man you would like to be involved with?
And is there any way to really know if he has gotten a divorce? My gut says to cut your losses and find someone with honesty and integrity.
Yeah, you're right .. he might be lying about the divorce as well, im not sure.
yes that concerns me too and why start something with someone whom you already know to be a dishonest person who steps out on his wife. I think you deserve a better man than that
turned out his wife is a friend of one of my friends. thats how i knew he's married. and he knew that too! so, yes i can check wether what hes claiming is right or hes again lying
yes you can but still may not even be worth pursuing.
Maybe becuase i have feelings for him, i couldnt be wise in that.
i keep wondering wether he deserves a second chance or not
yes I can understand that and hard for you to let go
if your heart desires to give him one then only you can be the judge on that
and if you decide to do so then I hope you can trust and let go and see what develops
let me know if I can help you further. If not please take a moment to offer a rating
and the other thing that concerns me, is that he had a strong love story with his wife 10 yrs ago. I heard that from my firend and he told me that by himself, but then he claimed that he doesnt love her anymore, and so does she (as per his claims)
Yet, i cant gurantee that.
tough decision for you.
so im concerned
follow your heart
with eyes open
people have loves before us so that doesn't concern me
Alright. thanks alot for your advice.
my pleasure. I wish you the best with him or someone else
take great care