I would like to help you with your question.
As a therapist of over 30 years, I always advocate for telling the truth. You are stuck in a fantasy about this woman based on a long ago relationship. Her life moved on. Your life moved on. The occasional contact you had by email - and Linked In - were just that...occasional contact.
Unfortunately, your marriage is not strong...and so it is normal that you would draw upon that long-ago fantasy to breathe some life into your today.
To not be a jerk in an email...tell her that you have not forgotten the fun chatter of the past and you would like to re-engage with her.
Only by telling her what you would like to happen are you going to know where she stands.
If you want to move from fantasy to reality...the only way to do that is to contact her and be honest about your feelings and desires.
Her last email to me said she wanted to re-connect and that I had been "on my mind much lately". But I guess you're right. Honesty is the best policy, (but insanity is a better defense...Lol). Thanks very much. Great insight.
You are very welcome.
LOL to the insanity comment!
Life is far too short...if there is mutual interest here then it is worth pursuing and seeing how life unfolds.
thank you very much!