Please don't thank me, you cannot imagine how helpful your advices are. you are helping me find my way to healing.
My feelings are swinging between the desire to revenge and see him suffer just like he made me suffer and between raising above these feelings. Do you have an advice on how can I shift my thinking from him to only think about myself and my healing regardless of his presence or what he did.
Cannot help the sad feeling and the anger! His friend is checking on me while he uses me.
Appreciate your time and effort.
Thank you so much.
I think I made a mistake today. I will tell you and help me assess this and correct it if possible.
Today we received an email as a group to nominate one of us to have a meeting with the director regarding feedback for our MBA program. Anyway, I am the one who is representing our group. The members of the team sent me their comments except him. But when I arrived home, I received a text msg on whatsapp from him saying that he wants to talk to me on the phone in order to give me his concerns regarding the meeting. I replied to him that he can sent it to me on the email or contact me on my office number tomorrow. He replied that he doesn't have time to write cuz he is very busy at work, but he will call me on my office number tomorrow. after that I felt that he again is doing what he wants. I let him do that. I think I made a mistake by giving him the chance to call me on the office. But my idea was since this was work related only, this might be my chance to train myself to deal with him for work only. But I honestly don't feel like talking to him especially after what he did the last time we talked when he hung up once we started talkking about serious stuff and gave a lame excuse.
What do you think? I am thinking that if he calls, I will not answer his phone then tell him I was busy and ask him to email me his comments just like the others.
I feel I am really stupid and that he keeps manipulating me. Although I was sure I was doing the right thing when I replied to him, but then I regretted big time.
please let me know if I am correct or not.
Of course Kate, we will consider it new, I will re submit as a new question, no worries at all and will rate the previous one if I still have the option to rate.