I would like a counselor practiced in relationships. My main question deals with why the girl I met with today left in such haste without so much as a "Good bye". Here is some background. Things seemed to be going with a girl I was dating recently. But she abruptly via text told me she was no longer interested in the relationship. I concluded that she found out that I was married, but going thru a divorce. I did not disclose this initially although I had planned to. I met with her today at a Starbucks to apologize which she accepted and said she appreciated. She then stated that I was difficult to figure out and that was the reason she broke off the relationship. This I understood. I told her that I have always been a private person and that I got the notion that she life was an open book. (It was evident in the short time we dated that her view of the world was very black and white, close to austere however my world is full of gray which suits me.) We had a nice conversation for an hour in which she stated she was pleasantly surprised by it. She then said she had to get back to work and then promptly got up and walked out with some haste without so much as a "Good bye". What's going on with that? I thought at least a handshake would have been appropriate! I guess I'm looking for some closure. Maybe a text to her just letting her know that I appreciated her time today.
Thank you for your help! I would just like to bring some closure on this matter. Her preferred method of conversation is via text. Maybe a text just thanking her for her time today?
I'm still bothered by the meeting that I outlined in my first message. My goal for the meeting was 1) apologize and 2) bring closure for me on this very short relationship. I don't have closure due in part to how the meeting ended.
Four things stick in my mind. First, when she first sat down she commented that she didn't think their were any loose ends (although the only real communication was her break off text.). Second, she went on at some length that she likes to (but others do not) correct people because they're wrong. I get the notion that she feels she has an eminently superior intellect. And third, she made mention in a very smug way that she was glad she had the meeting. And finally, before walking out she said somewhat derisively that she can't make her schedule (as I can). It was after this she got up from the table quickly and marched out of the cafe.
The manner of the meeting was unsatisfying for me and it is still a bother as I'm sure it is no longer for her. I'd just like to get beyond this matter and I'd much rather not contact she to do it.
Thanks for your help!
I don't have closure over this relatively short relationship. It still naws at me in the back of my mind.
Thank you for your advice. Your comments around just saying "it's ok" was particularly helpful.