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From the information you have provided it seems that this man is simply doing what you asked of him. Taking it slow due to you being afraid of commitment. I am sure that his schedule does play into the time in which both of you can spend together.In the early stages of dating, a man is often attentive, affectionate, and willing to do anything to stay close to you. He talks about his life, his feelings and wants to know everything about you. He wants to make sure you have incredible experiences together.At some point you sense a shift in him. His openness and curiosity fades. He rarely wants to talk about your feelings or the relationship. He seems distant and withdrawn. You worry about it, and wonder why suddenly you’re the only one who cares about the relationship.
Tip #1) Avoid falling into the common role of the “Convincer” When you sense a man is less available to you, and it scares you, the common reaction is to unconsciously convince a man to stay and open up emotionally. This usually shows up as subtle begging, whining, or pouting in order to change his behavior.
Unfortunately, these are the exact kinds of behaviors that seem “needy” to a withdrawn man, and cause him to want to pull away more.
Tip #2) Keep your Center The quickest way to connect with someone, especially a man, is to be the kind of positive, magnetic person that they can’t help but be changed and inspired by.
When we feel uncertain and worried, we often put more attention and focus on the PROBLEMS we see. But, as the saying goes, sometimes the best medicine is laughter. Try to look at problems in your relationship as OPPORTUNITIES for love, growth and understanding.
To maintain a positive attitude, you have to have a full life — with or without a man. Don’t stop doing the things that make you feel great about yourself and your life.
Tip #3) Lead with Attraction
Talking about your relationship “issues” will never change a man. What does change him is the magic power of attraction. Remember what drew you to him in the first place. It’s not just physical attraction, but emotional attraction that creates a strong, unbreakable bond between you and a man.
In any case, all you can really do is give him some space or confront him about it, and I’d vote for the former, both because I think it’s the right thing to do and because I think it’s the easiest thing to do. Sometimes they are one and the same.
If he’s not interested anymore, aggressively courting him generally won’t re-ignite said interest. Better to accept that “something happened,” and it’s probably not going to work out, at least not for the time being.
Give him space, and observe. If he shows interest again down the line, maybe ask him “what was all that, then?” preferably in an adorable cockney accent. If not, try and accept that he may have simply changed his mind.
Time will surely tell! As a man, we are somewhat immature when dealing with relationships!
I hope the information provided above can shed the light on your current relationship!
Just give the relationship time to develop. I know the waiting game is tough! If you don't want to wait then it will be his lose. Remember, if something is there, he will come back!
Let his schooling and career slow down and I bet he will be crawling back into your life! :)
I would say you are in the dating stage. I would distance myself a little! Let him come to you! Especially when things slow down for him!
Yes, very good sign!
Have faith! Everything will work out!
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Thank you for your input on my so called "relationship" . I am not sure what to think about this guy "Jake" I have been talking to. He contacted me on Friday and I was busy and out of town, (to play, hard to get, which I actually was). I really like this guy, but I am not so sure if he still feels the same way anymore. I understand in the beginning, he mentioned he dis not have much free time but was willing to make time. We are not serious, but still keep in touch and see each other once a week at least. He is a genuine guy, but I have been mistaken before. I feel like he may be seeing somebody else which is my fear. I rarely text him anymore. He initiates. We are at times intimate when we see each other, as grownups. But I don't see him on the weekends. I guess, I shouldn't be upset because I told him I didn't want anything serious at all. I am confused, and is afraid he may be seeing somebody else. The reason why I am frustrated and a little hurt is because he had excuses why he couldn't see me twice. Then one night, he realized he couldn't see me last minute. But only sees me when he is available. I understand there are people who are genuinely busy, but you wonder if they are telling the truth. the reason for some of the cancellations were "family obligations" the next day, which was a Monday. I became suspicious, and " helping a friend move, at night?. In order to ease the pain, I am talking to other people to date. I don't want to focus all my energy on one person. What is your opinion. I am afraid to ask him for fear of the truth and suffocating or appearing needy. thank you. chandy.