In addition to that sexual relationship, I also did some flirting with several other women on facebook during our first year together. When she first found out about these issues I got mad and denied everything because I didn't want to lose her. I did eventually admit to the indiscretions, and we discussed it a lot before we got married this past June. I have grudgingly made my cell phone bills, credit card bills, facebook account, etc. available to her to help her regain trust in me. My problem is, when she questions me about phone numbers, credit card charges, etc. I get mad and defensive. I have some resentment that I need to learn to deal with. How do I do this. I love her, and she loves me.
I understand the dynamics of the situation, but can you provide me with a method to prevent myself from being automatically angry and defensive when she asks me these types of questions? It seems as if I just react negatively when questioned.