Seeking expert testimony is a sign of strength. A personal relationship with a caring professional is proven clinically effective.
I believe that I can help with your situation.
I know that you are devastated because this woman has taken your place as his love interest and now is (presumably) carrying his baby, something that you wanted.
If you had
conceived you might be pregnant and abandoned, or married to a man who was cheating on you while you were carrying his child.
He showed his true colors and you were out of the situation before an already terrible situation could have been further complicated by a child from a broken home and legal battles over custody, visitation and child support.
You are grieving the loss and will have to go through the grieving process from anger and denial, through depression, through eventual acceptance of the reality of the new situation.
Going onto Facebook is like rubbing salt in the wound. You have no positive reason to be there or care about what they do. Instead you have to get him out of your mind. Get rid of mementos, pictures, and all those things that remind you of the man who turned out to be someone else.
You must turn to other interests, start to date or look for possible contacts online (Match.com, e Harmony.com, POF, Mingle, Our Times, etc.), take a class, join a meet-up, go to museums or take classes, etc.
Join a social minded church, join the YMCA, and get plenty of exercise, summer and winter, and do your best to move on. The grief will fade and you will be better prepared.
Finally, let me recommend a book that many of my clients like and find helpful:
It comes in paperback, E book or audio CD. and is available at amazon.com.
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If you find yourself thinking about this too much, you can also try thought stopping techniques found in this excellent guidebook that is widely acclaimed by professionals and written by mental health professionals, concise and very easy to read and effective.
I wish you the courage to persevere and to ignore your former partner and his new friend(s).
I shall keep you in my prayers.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC