So tonight I had a phone call from sally asking me if it was OK for her to go out drinking with Steve and other people. I told her she it's her decision and she went out with them. With the first time being away with Steve and the issues we are going through I felt it was unfair for her to put the decision on to me. I have called sally and told her about how I feel which was unfair because we were not face to face. I told her that if we were solid together and not having issues and Steve was not a factor then it is great for her to enjoy herself out. But with the convoluted situation that she should have not asked me on the phone about it cause it gets my head spinning and she is away where my heart is broken and by asking me to go out drinking with him puts a bigger crack in my heart. I listened to your advise and understood about more trust and I felt good on making progress to a better mental view but when the phone call came in about going out drinking it really put me back. So with my sensitivity to this situation is it blocking my ability to trust or was the phone call about going out drinking too much too soon?