I hear your advice. and realize that infact yes, I am putting at risk a healthy relationship.. Over a relationship that was rocky, THe ex has been seeking therapy, and I dont expect change, but I expect him to be better equipt to handle his emotions.. I deeply care for this person, but also want to be in a heatlhy loving relationship....I am going to take this calmly and hope to dear god I make the decision I need to make. And your right premise w=is very important. Thank you.