thank you for the response . you give me a lot of hope. but im still not sure how to do it . we left it the day of the hike that he would call me. that was sunday . ihavent heard anything since . i had written him a letter a week ago saying how sorry i was for my behavior that i was foolish to let some things get in our way and that i knew words were not enough , that i had to show him i had changed . etc etc . he never responded to that letter , should i resend it ? i m not sure how to show him ive changed . do i consistently show up for activities that we bot sign up for . we are members of various meetup groups , hiking and dining out single event ones. hes very outgoing and active . do i send cards . we live about 12 miles from each other . i m just not sure how to do it can you elaborate on that for me ? thanks
thank you. it really helps getting input from another perspective .
hi , its been a week , i resent the letter and also sent a facebook friend request ( i had initially blocked him during one of our earlier spats months ago) but not a word back and i noticed hes signed up for every available singles meet up event for the next two months like maybe 30 events after work and over the weekends . and i ve seen photos of him this past week cozy with some other women. Also the past 6 months have been very difficut for me as i lost my job , my car ( almost 20 yr old , started breaking down ) and my tenants who rented my apt stopped paying their rent 3 months ago after i lost my job i let them know i wouldnt be able to renew the lease as i need to move back there to have some sort of housing , and im running out of money , my emergency fund is almost depleated , and my CC's are all maxed out now that i have no income , as i was in a cash job and i get no child support - shared custody my son is 17 = he just came home earler this year from residential treatment and his situation while at his dads is not great lot of tension as dad moved in with a woman while he was away and now dad doesnt have much time for him hes all about his girlfriend . i dont have a regular place to live , ive been on friends couches, cheap hotels and sometimes air bnb a friend has let me use a room ar her place for 2 months . but i cant bring my son there. all i want from my ex bf is companionship and just his love and hugs . i am struggling to pay the mortgage on the apt . i used some emergecy savings to get a lawyer to start the eviction process , we have court this week while i am doing a work trial- lawyerr said i dont have to go . my ex bf was with me when they stopped paying initially and even served the rent demand to them . i feel completely abandoned and alone and not sure where to turn . , but just having him back would make it all less painful . what should i do mow , thanks anne marie .
wow thank you for the feedback . my son doesnt graduate until hes 19 but i am thankful tha t he has come a long way to actually want to finish high school and go to college this was not the situation ayear ago . .
i am willing to give my ex a little more time -his mom is sick and he is been taking care of her alot. his birthday is XXXXX up soon , i like to do something special for i him as i messed it up last year , what do you recommend . thankfully i may have a few potential job offers coming up , but i may have to sell the apt as soon as i get it back before my emer , fund dries up . not much profit in it but i dont want it to foreclose
my ex husband keeps our somn now for most of the time . he spends 2 weekends at a local hotel with me in the same room . i guess hes at least doing something to help. but he has told our son hes throwing himout when hes 18 , but my son told him he cant because he ll still be at school.
thanks again for the feedback , it helps me keep a clear head , anne marie