Kate.....All the answers you have given me we have already tried. I have been going to counceling on my own for more than a year. He has went on his own as well, he also went to some SAnonymous group sessions, but work gets in the way. My husband is a Wind turbine Supervisor for a company and he has to go where the windmills are being put up. We live in a low employment area and we have 2 children just finishing university and college and one just starting university so for those reasons he has to work. I have sent him many many websites on cheating and fixing marriages after cheating and he read a few of them but he says they are too painful. He feels really guilty, I think he is trying to work on things, but I can't bring myself to trust him and I can't bring myself to leave. I almost left him about 8 months ago and I backed out in the end.
Kate....Are you freakin' kidding me!! I know it's a difficult situation, but jeez....24 years and 3 kids later, it's gotta be worth fighting for. I'm 45 yrs old...starting over. I could have gotten that advice for free.