i have a problem i keep texting girls and asking them if they think im gay . i tell them i got drunk and slept with a guy and ask them if they think im gay or not.after that night i tried it twice more with two different people but felt bad for doing it after everytime. ive also been on here b4 and asked the same question . how do i stop. i have already asked a similar question but im looking for a second opinion. thank you
Sorry you are having such trouble with this issue. It's certainly a big one. You are talking about your definition of yourself and who you are as a person, and that's NEVER an easy question to answer. And in reality, although you are looking to other people to help you answer this question, you are really the only person who can answer it.
Clearly, your encounter with another male has made you question whether or not you are gay. I guess I would pose the question back to you: do YOU think you are gay? Also, you mentioned feeling bad after trying it with two different people. What I wonder is: what do you mean about feeling bad? Does that mean you didn't enjoy it or derive any satisfaction from it? Or does it mean that perhaps you DID feel some satisfaction and enjoyment, but feel that you "shouldn't" feel that way? So, is there a sense of guilt or shame about feeling the way you do?
These are all questions I would ask you to ponder in helping you come to a conclusion about your own sexuality.
You also asked: how do I stop? What is it you want help stopping? Texting girls and asking them if you're gay, or stopping encounters with other men in an attempt to answer this question about yourself.
If you can help me out by answer those questions, I may be able to provide a more thorough answer for you.
I hope to hear from you soon!
sometimes i think that im gay but then i think to myself i cant be gay, when i say i feel bad a mean i think at the time im doing it i feel excited and maybe enjoy it a little bit but when i cum i think what have i done and have to leave straight away.i want to stop texting girls and asking them if they think im gay. i think when i text and ask them this question i get a bit of a buzz out of it . i think girls are hot but when im with them this plays on my head and i cant preform properly.
also when i masterbait to pictures of girls or have sex with them when i cum i feel good i dont feel bad
thank you for you reply. ok i realy do need your help. i dont feel gay. i cant be and dont want to be gay. i had a threesome lastnight. me a friend of mine who is a guy and a girl. me and my friend didnt do anything with each other. he went with her first and i went second. we used rubbers. he had no problem getting hard for her. he was haed as soon as she got naked. when it came my turn i still wasnt hard. she asked me whats wrong and i said i cant get hard because hes in the room so he moved away and faced the other way. i still couldnt get hard. in the end i imagined she was a guy and i started to get hard . im annoyed because i thought she was so hot but could only get hard when i imagined she was a guy. i feel like im getting worse and i dont want to be gay
could it be that i have OCD