How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask Dr. Paige Your Own Question

Dr. Paige
Dr. Paige, Psychologist
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 1381
Experience:  Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist
15718554
Type Your Relationship Question Here...
Dr. Paige is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

Dr Paige please advice me. He did not call and I texted him

Resolved Question:

Dr Paige please advice me. He did not call and I texted him after 5 days a joke. He replied "too busy" and had an event to attend tonight. The asked about me. I told him busy with kids and school started. Also asked if he wanted us to arrange something for tomorrow evening. I am waiting for his reply. Why did he say he would call the next day,
when now its obvious that he is not interested? He said he liked my friends and we should arrange to go out as couples. Since I asked him for tomorrow evening and if he does not reply shall I call and try for the last time? I am looking forward to your advice.
Submitted: 1 year ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Josie-Mod replied 1 year ago.
Hi, I'm Josie and I am a moderator for this topic. I sent your requested professional a message to follow up with you here, when he is back online.

If I can help further, please let me know. Thank you for your continued patience.
Expert:  Dr. Paige replied 1 year ago.

Hello. Well, it does seem that he is too busy for a relationship and maybe not as seriously interested as you initially had thought he was. I think he is telling the truth now in that maybe he is just interested in a casual friendship type of thing more than anything more. If this is the case, what do you feel about that? Would you be willing to hang out in groups of couples as he seems to want to do more than to be exclusive? You need to decide what you want out of a relationship and if this isn't what you have in mind, then you need to think about looking elsewhere. It is important that you always define your goals for a relationship with anyone new that you meet in order to make sure you both have the same ideas and you don't end up disappointed, as it seems may be happening here because he may have mislead you.

So, determine if this guy is worth your time if he doesn't have much for you. If you are still curious to see where this is heading, by all means, wait it out. But if you feel frustration already at the onset of this friendship, maybe it isn't worth the stress wondering all the time what he is doing and if he is wanting to be with you or not.

Customer: replied 1 year ago.

I have known him for two years, just after I separated. A couple of months later he asked to move in with me but I was not ready. Sometimes I feel he is trying to see if I am still interested by the way he questions (he is not direct) and his recent offer to allow me to stay with my kids at his place as I am looking for a new place. (he will soon move abroad for his work for 6 months). I explained that I needed a place near their schools, and he then said 'so you want to be with you kids' and I said yes. Then he was silent for a few minutes. Shall I invite him over for a drink and clarify the situation? Also what shall I say without being pushy? Looking forward to your advice.

Expert:  Dr. Paige replied 1 year ago.
I think inviting him over to clarify the situation is the best thing you can do and that is what I recommend. I don't think you will sound pushy by just saying the truth, but if you do, so what? You need to know what's going on, so you asked. Being straight forward sometimes is the only way to get the answer you want. Tell him that you just need to know and want clarification because a lot of your choices hinge on his response.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.

I am a shy person. To ask him if he is ready for a relationship in general and if he says yes to tell him that I am interested? I would like to hear your opinion too.


Please also tell me what you mean by my choicesbeing hinge from his response? Thanks

Expert:  Dr. Paige replied 1 year ago.
Well, you are waiting for him to tell you his intentions in order for you to make decisions about your future. If he is leaving and offered you his place with your kids, you have to know if that offer still stands and if so, under what circumstances? It is difficult to enter a relationship with someone who will be leaving for 6 months anyway, so just talking with him in general will help clarify things for you. If you are shy about this, why don't you write down you want to say to him and "practice" so you know what it will sound like in a conversation.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.

You mean to see if he wants a rent payment? Also i would like to move in alone for a few days a week only (when kids are with their father) as i
don't like it where i am now. This arrangement until i find a new place if he wants just a casual friendship. Do you think its ok to ask this or not appropriate? Thanks again.


 

Expert:  Dr. Paige replied 1 year ago.
He was the one who had originally offered, so I don't think its inappropriate to ask. You are basically just clarifying the entire situation, so just checking to make sure this is all ok and what he expects as far as rent is all perfectly appropriate questions to bring up.
Dr. Paige, Psychologist
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 1381
Experience: Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist
Dr. Paige and 3 other Relationship Specialists are ready to help you

JustAnswer in the News:

 
 
 
Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.
 
 
 

What Customers are Saying:

 
 
 
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
< Last | Next >
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
  • This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!! Alex Los Angeles, CA
  • Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult. GP Hesperia, CA
  • I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion. Justin Kernersville, NC
  • Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around. Esther Woodstock, NY
  • Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know. Robin Elkton, Maryland
  • He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here. Diane Dallas, TX
 
 
 

Meet The Experts:

 
 
 
  • Dear Debra

    Advice Columnist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1719
    I have been an Advice columnist for 14 years. My column is published weekly in local newpapers.
< Last | Next >
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DE/deedeeham/2011-1-24_51523_408.64x64.JPG Dear Debra's Avatar

    Dear Debra

    Advice Columnist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1719
    I have been an Advice columnist for 14 years. My column is published weekly in local newpapers.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/formybunch/2010-12-06_191055_img_0975.jpg Kate McCoy's Avatar

    Kate McCoy

    Counselor

    Satisfied Customers:

    1235
    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/RE/resolutions66/2011-1-17_05728_IMG8202smilingeditedforJustAnswer.64x64.jpg Elliott, LPCC, NCC's Avatar

    Elliott, LPCC, NCC

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1215
    35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/CO/CoachJenK/2012-3-9_31019_Jen.64x64.jpg Coach Jen K.'s Avatar

    Coach Jen K.

    LMSW, CPC

    Satisfied Customers:

    726
    Providing the utmost care and support.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/IN/intrapsyc.com/2012-2-20_161928_RGMTPicturex5002012.64x64.png Rafael M.T.Therapist's Avatar

    Rafael M.T.Therapist

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    549
    MHT-MHRS-MS-MA Integral Psychotherapist & Life Coach
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/HU/hungryjack20/IMG_1281_edit_2.64x64.jpg Dr. L's Avatar

    Dr. L

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    349
    Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/SU/suzmsw/2011-9-2_184634_Thisone.64x64.JPG Suzanne's Avatar

    Suzanne

    Therapist, LCSW

    Satisfied Customers:

    338
    Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency
 
 
 
Chat Now With A Counselor
Dr. Paige
Dr. Paige
Counselor
1381 Satisfied Customers
Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist