Hello. Well, it does seem that he is too busy for a relationship and maybe not as seriously interested as you initially had thought he was. I think he is telling the truth now in that maybe he is just interested in a casual friendship type of thing more than anything more. If this is the case, what do you feel about that? Would you be willing to hang out in groups of couples as he seems to want to do more than to be exclusive? You need to decide what you want out of a relationship and if this isn't what you have in mind, then you need to think about looking elsewhere. It is important that you always define your goals for a relationship with anyone new that you meet in order to make sure you both have the same ideas and you don't end up disappointed, as it seems may be happening here because he may have mislead you.
So, determine if this guy is worth your time if he doesn't have much for you. If you are still curious to see where this is heading, by all means, wait it out. But if you feel frustration already at the onset of this friendship, maybe it isn't worth the stress wondering all the time what he is doing and if he is wanting to be with you or not.
I have known him for two years, just after I separated. A couple of months later he asked to move in with me but I was not ready. Sometimes I feel he is trying to see if I am still interested by the way he questions (he is not direct) and his recent offer to allow me to stay with my kids at his place as I am looking for a new place. (he will soon move abroad for his work for 6 months). I explained that I needed a place near their schools, and he then said 'so you want to be with you kids' and I said yes. Then he was silent for a few minutes. Shall I invite him over for a drink and clarify the situation? Also what shall I say without being pushy? Looking forward to your advice.
I am a shy person. To ask him if he is ready for a relationship in general and if he says yes to tell him that I am interested? I would like to hear your opinion too.
Please also tell me what you mean by my choicesbeing hinge from his response? Thanks
You mean to see if he wants a rent payment? Also i would like to move in alone for a few days a week only (when kids are with their father) as i don't like it where i am now. This arrangement until i find a new place if he wants just a casual friendship. Do you think its ok to ask this or not appropriate? Thanks again.