i would but i just need to know if she is serious about me
if only i had another few weeks with her
im 24 and shes 27, i live in adelaide south australia and she lives in sydney australia
it would be a massive change and what if it doesnt pay off
ok, but is it normal to feel this way just after like 1-2 weeks of getting to know her cause shes different to any other girl (which is a good thing) ive been in a relationship with, and i just feel that it could work if we both make the effort
ok thank you
Ok. I'm back.
So, you're right about the fact that it would be a massive change. And it kind of sounds like you're hoping for some guarantee that it WILL pay off. I guess that's why I'm suggesting that if you do this, there should also be OTHER reasons to make the leap, so that there will be a silver lining, or something to be gained, either way.
I am trying to locate a resource I want to send you as well, regarding the intense feelings you have after such a short time.
well i know my mum is moving to sydney next yr so ive been thinking about moving with her and cause i work for a company thats based in sydney it should be easy for me to get a transfer, i am ready for a change
Those are a few web articles that describe a little bit about what is happening when we "fall in love." It may seem to take some of the "romance" out of love when you boil it down to a science, but I'm only offering this to you so that you understand that there are ACTUAL physiological things occurring in your body/brain that are making you feel the way you do.
So, there are a few other reasons, it sounds like, that you may be considering a move like this anyways. That is great!
AND - you say you're ready for a change.
With all of that said, it sounds like moving and being closer to this girl would be a win-win -- all around.
Even if things don't work out with you and her in the end, do you feel you will have lost anything by making the move? Do you think you'd have any regrets?
i dont think i would cause i know everything happens for a reason even though sometimes its very hard to see the reason why. how do i tell her id risk everything to be with her cause i dont wanna freak her out
That's great that you have that perspective - that everything happens for a reason. As for how do you tell her, perhaps it's not wise to tell her that you're willing to risk everything to be with her, even though it's how you feel. You're right, that it may freak her out, even though your heart is in the right place. This is a tough dilemma. On the one hand, you don't want to freak her out, but on the other, you don't want to be disingenuous about your reasons for moving.
What if - instead of telling her you'd risk everything to be with her (because then she'd feel she's the ONLY reason you're moving), you tell her that you've been thinking of making a change anyways, and your mum is moving there next year, and you could get a transfer with your company, AND it would give the two of you a chance to get to know each other better as well. That way, you can continue to take it SLOW with her (even though your feelings are telling you to go FAST!). :-)
ok thanks for your advice, ill think it through, ive got to head to work now thanks again
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