Elliott, Id like to run something by you. My weekends are the roughest. If you have time for another question, it would be appreciated.
My older son who is 20 also came from college and spend some time here today. He asked my husband to go to the shore with him and do some surfing. Normally he would go with my other son who is 18 but he was hanging out with his girlfriend today.
I keep an emotional and physical distance from my husband on the weekend due to psychological abusive behavior, often covert. I was upstairs when they came back home and stayed there. I do however interact much more with kids when my husband is not around because it's much more emotionally safe. My son left the house abruptly lastnight and tonight by barely saying
goodbye to me. So I called him and asked him if anything was wrong why he left abruptly besides the usual tension between Dad and I. He was short He was short with me was short with me was rude and said I'm driving I'll call you later
and I said something else and he just repeated I'll talk to you later. However I know for sure that he will not call me and I texted him saying that we don't have to talk while you're driving but you are a short with me today and it doesn't feel good.
my gut feeling is he will not respond to that text either. its not only one person in the house I feel I have to teach how to respect me it's now three people. I have the most pain and I'm the sickest person in the house and yet I am the kindest. and should I call my son and talk about this or just let it go since he already knows how I feel. and if he doesn't respond to my text and my phone call from before then I would think that continuing bad treatment toward me. or am I just being overly sensitive because I live in a walking on eggshells environment?
I know he's back in his dorm now and most likely received my text.
All he had to do was admit it, because it is the environment.
Should I see their behavior as safely expressed to me, or abusively expressed based on what they witness from Dad.
Im not clear on how much I should allow.
Should I just let it lie, or text again saying I wish you had a better environment to return home to.