thank you. Well I thought about it before I did it and I did it anyway and in retrospect I think I should have handled it differently.
I'm going into the city next week to the specialist and my son is coming with me for his own issues of joint pain. My son can drive me because my hip acts up when I drive long distances and he could park the car yet, the parking is expensive. My husband offer to drive like he has done many times before so we can avoid paying parking. I thanked my husband for offering but do not like him to be there with me and my son because he is more manipulative and tries to act like the good dad, often at the expense of ignoring me. It's just stressful all around with him and the kids together with me. so I said to my son can we go together and you park the car or should we take dad because I would rather not take Dad as he makes me feel uncomfortable. my son said it was up to me but in retrospect I realize maybe I shouldn't have told him that that dad makes me uncomfortable but I was only keeping it real
Also I noticed an eagerness for my husband to take us which I didn't know what to attribute it to other than maybe to maintain some type of control over us or power because everything or many things anyway that he does seems to be self serving. particularly when there are times I really need the help then he's not available
Kate, awesome !
Not to sound juvenile, but its soo very helpful.
I feel better about what you told me that it wasn't too terrible what I said to my son, and I did not elaborate.
Also, my hunch was correct about his self serving reasons for taking us, and probably he is aware that I don't like him around. Believe me when I tell you that I have been in need so many times when he wasn't there but he wants to give in the way that suits him for his need for control.
You helped me make the decision to go with my son who I'm sure can find parking on his own and I will be much more comfortable with all around.
additionally, because of the magnitude
of my health issues having you available to answer some of my questions really helps in a big way, but taking care of some of the clutter that I can control
Okay :) ((thanks again))