I did not plan to "threaten" boyfriend, but she says she has not told him that I know.
The point is that I have taken steps to get his contact information, as I don't know his name or phone number but the complex in which he lives.
I told her that most men (except 'bad' men) will tend to back off when they are exposed as we don't like to be looking over our shoulders for the unknown.
She said he was not the one primarily responsible for the relationship as she wanted it. She is protecting him of course. However, I told her that it is only fair that he knows what he is in, so we ALL know where we stand and if she won't tell him I will.
She realizes that it will be a MESS with all of our circumstances (social level, etc) considered - her siblings and our colleagues and friends. We have a 20 year old girl one year in university and a mortgaged house with challenging mortgage. She says we can sell it and share but she wants to go enjoy life badly
Still not absolutely sure what she will do when she considers it some more. It has been just a few days and it I want sex I still get it.