Does their opinion include whether you are popular? What things are influenced in someone's opinion by talking and writing? What type of things? (Will tell me if I am O.K. with how I am , that my judgement is O.K.).
Thanks. What things are in a person's opinion of someone then usually? Are there people who do not like a person almost immediately then go with that? Do people form relationships with others in front of someone they do not like on purpose? Is that not a practical strategy, maybe not respected? I always had dynamics within a group where there were things better about one person and different things about another but the people did not eliminate each other, unless one person did not know the other person already did not like the third person.
So, is it an accepted strategy to be judgmental based on looks and clothes and age? I assume so from your answer and have probably done that myself, so what if the person is really acceptable and do not get the chance from someone, does that eventually fall apart or backfire on the one who does not accept the person, or does it work in their life?
And, are you saying the one who judges unfairly must either have it fall apart or incorporate the wrongness of it for it to work? This is so important to me because it would mean a lot if that was true, that it would work for them if they realize they were wrong. I would hope that would come out in their relationships. Is that what you meant?
On the above question, does it always come down to if you like or dislike someone and if you do not adhere to that, stick with that, then you will have problems? Does that overrule someone you may not decide whether you might like them or not based on circumstances? In other words, is it better to decide based on circumstances then whether you like someone or not and use that information?