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My partner works 2 jobs also goes to school we live in different

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My partner works 2 jobs also goes to school we live in different boMy partner works 2 jobs also goes to school we live in different boroughs & come down to visit his side a town where my parents live recently its been getting harder to see him, so I told him it seems like he's not interested anymore & he as something of mine I would like it back when I come to visit my parents we can meet up....well he called me & told me I'm just as responsible & why are we so quick to give up on relationships these days, he said I'm not just amother pretty face I have deep feelings for you your a good person I don't want you to go nowhere i'm going through a tough time right now no matter what's going on in my life right now I want you here....he barely have time for me & my feelings are deep should I hang in there & not be hard on him....I don't knowon in my life right now I want you here....he barely have time for me & my feelings are deep should I hang in there & not be hard on him....I don't know

Hi! I'll be glad to be of help with this issue.

I can imagine how confusing and distressing this situation must be for you. You clearly have feelings for him but you also know that he's not ready emotionally to be in a healthy relationship. He's making you feel guilty about your desire to meet your own needs by looking elsewhere for a good relationship.

And this is actually the key to my answer to you that you need to consider and think about. Good people do feel guilty for wanting to act on their own needs instead of the other person's needs. But that is not a good basis for a relationship. Really, it's not a healthy way to keep a relationship going, that you feel bad because he thinks he needs you.

You have a right to have a good, healthy relationship. And again, guilt is not a good basis for trying to make this one into a long term relationship.

Okay, I wish you the very best!

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