Yes. I agree with most of your assessment. There is definitely game playing going on, but to what reason is to be determined.1st type is The game playing could be trying to teach me a lesson to eventually come back into a relationship in a better situation from my part i will not screw up again. Which of course i need to asses my sense if i want to afford possible game playing again in the long run if she gets upset again. She has played games and or tried to give veiled threats during the relationship to test me responses. So it can be a good chance that this is same but to a larger longer test. This actually is what i hope because it gives me a chance to make a choice of going back to her to try to reach her in a deeper sense to correct our or her patterns with dealing with issues. Or even to successfully get he to receive treatment eventually.
the 2nd is possible she may be playing with my feelings to instill revenge to hurt me as much as possible as i have hurt her with no intentions of coming back to me. This is the worse case with obvious consequences to my psych.
3rd and final is just that this is her way of moving on and trying to be polite with the least mess as possible. This is probably the most likely scenario .
However, the spots of light such as her checking on me behind the scenes, the way she still keeps open communication by responding to my contact, and also a large recent positive interest in my presence at a large family event ( which could be a refection of the interest Rose may Feel and or the family knows about), and openness about going out as friends with me again, gives a certain percentage of chance, which even as low as 10-20 % is much betetr than 0 % which would have been evident if all of these above lights did not exist, gives me the hope to afford to wait it out and 'see' what happens. I am thinking of actually not giving my answer very soon to see what else may happen as the family waits for my answer. It seems to get more and more interesting, where the possible contact from Rose may not be far off. This situation has granted me temporary power as to speak. I feel I am making strides in getting over Rose, however I am cue on their possible games as well so with my lessening interests as well as power gain it would only be to my advantage to keep THEM guessing as so they may not know my plans to occupy their scheming. There is a saying. Dont give up till the very last once of water is gone because at the last possible moment is when the tide will turn back. Even so, there can be events or even regret talk to Rose about breakup that could create a veiw of need where she feels compelled to confide in me and show herself she needs me as her man. I know my views may come off as obsessive or delusional, but i feel I'm very much in love with this woman that cna only be classified as unconditional love. As it may seem od or strange but its as rare as an oddity . I have never felt this way for anyone in my life. I have been sad for maybe 2 weeks after break up at longest but not over 5 weeks. I feel the only 2 things that can happen right now or up till wedding that will make me turn and walk away totally is to find she is with someone else, or she somehow tell me directly or directly to no longer contact her. I strongly feel because she is from a different culture and her family seems to control her, this is not a typical American woman or American type relationship . That is why this is soo hard to read this is because I feel the signs she is showing is not typical of a woman that is 27 years old, but of a teen love at 15 years old. Remember she was forced into a marriage w/o even dating or ever having a boyfriend as typical as in America. Her views on infatuation and love are distorted and not realized. she has not received therapy and none has sat down to explain these things to her that what she felt was lust but if it fades it does not mean she cannot still love me and continue the relationship. I guess i am waiting for this possible event to happen. however i will not wait the next 5 years till her relationship maturity level is 20 naturally. lol. I know it is way out of your typical assessments...which is beyond American relationship dating..but international...culture shattering perspective. if you feel you cant help me to go beyond this point let me know if there is someone that may help in the culture divide. Thank you