Thank you we spoke before about being in a loveless marriage which in itself is not the hardest thing as
the hardest thing I believe is the psychological abuse. He will ignore me as though I don't exist and if I went somewhere he won't ask me where I go. Nevr a conversation, care, concern or even a goodnight. however when he wants to look good to the kids he will pretend to be nice to me.
Having narcissistic qualities is one thing,but I think there must be some pleasure he's a rise out of trying to continually control me or keep me at a distance and when I express how that makes me feel he rages.
He has very passive aggressive tendencies and leave things have clean and have 30 deliberately so I know deep in my heart that he is taking pleasure out of causing me pain yet making it look good on the surface that he's being doing something that a husband should do
and will do anything to divert the conversation and take the focus off of him because he's not even showing any type of care.
he knows I have a physical disability and three days in a row he went to the store without even asking if I needed anything even though I reminded him to please ask me while he is at the store if I need anything to pick up to let him know. However I believe it is deliberate it that he is not asking me and please I need some tips.ccmy friend said to stop asking him to ask you if you need anything from the store because he's getting pleasure out of this
then he said good morning to me after days of not speaking with me and I said yes and he said what you can't even say good morning? I am supposed to say good morning when he is so inconsistent and ignores my existence and tends to be a master manipulator I am not asking for marriage I am only asking to be treated like a human being even you would treat a roommate better. I'm sorry but I'm having trouble typing on this mini computerte.
I hope that this helps. I shall continue to keep you in my prayers, Dawn.
Thank You Elliott. I just can't wrap my head around how my pain could be someone else's pleasure. A part of me thinks he is also a great deal of pain but you certainly not looking for a connection with me but rather to control me.
thank you for the reference I'm going to seek out that first book you mentioned today and the second one at a later time.
thank you for the cartoon the day before it was very cute and lifted my spirits. despite the emotional turmoil I have less physical pain which is great. have a good weekend if I don't speak to you again.
Diagnostic criteria for 301.81 Narcissistic Personality Disorder
(DSM IV - TR)
A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
(1) has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
(2) is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
(3) believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
(4) requires excessive admiration
(5) has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
(6) is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
(7) lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
(8) is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
(9) shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
yes he is!THE FIRST BOOK IS QUITE GOOD! TY