Is there any chance with all of his therapy he will realize he has relapsed? We have been married for 20 years. I realize I can file for divorce, I am just hoping he will realize his relapse. He is living in complete fantasy. What are the chances of their affair lasting in the real world. Traveling the world on their job's dime. And both could be fired, especially my husband due to being her superior. Is he holding on to me because he loves me and knows deep down he is sick, or is he just ignoring all of reality to remain immersed in addiction and the affair? We have been down this road before, but not since he has been to treatment. Things were not good when he began the affair, and I feel guilty for not treating him better. If he is an Addict , then and can get past the denial, can there be any hope?