DSM IV definition: Someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD) has at least 5 of the following characteristics:
You could suggest to him that you both go for family counselling, but I would imagine that he would resist. A narcissist is the perpetrator but always blames his victims as if THEY are at fault. They also do not believe that anyone else is qualified to help them.
I certainly shall keep you in my prayers and wish you great fortune in finding a happier life with or without your husband.
Life is short and should not be squandered in an unhappy relationship.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
ELLIOTT your answer is scary as I do recognise some of the things you mention in my husband. I cannot imagine that he would physically hurt me but he does in so many other ways. We have been married for 13 years and to be honest when I agreed to marry him I was at a very low place in my life and quite vulnerable. He had been married to the same lady for 25 years so he is able to keep a relationship. he spent most of his time sleeping as he was a long distance driver and as a hobby (0f his late wife's) they were very invloved in the breeding of dogs and he became a judge. His wife died and 18months later I was introduced to him and as I was not thinking straight (not an excuse I know) but trust me I was in a dark place at the time. he told me that he shared some of my own interests as in, dancing, theatre love of a good joke, and yet he very quickly after our marriage all those things important to me didn't seem be of interest to him. he would go to the theatre but only if i organised the trip and paid for it. He has no sense of humor and seems only to be happy when he feels he is in charge of something and giving out instructions never really a conversation. I notice at church he will not make an effort to go and talk to people unless they go to him. I know in my heart I am married to the wrong person but he is not my first marriage and I am afraid of making any more mistakes plus financially I dont know how I would live. This must sound very weak to you I dont believe for one moment that I am perfect far from it, but I am very unhappy and yesterday has only made it so much worse.