Thank you for the replies to the questions and the added information. It helps a lot in understanding what the situation is. I believe I can now be of help with this issue.
I can imagine how hurt and worried you feel. And you are right. It is very hurtful because it felt like a betrayal and you're not sure if it was indeed a real betrayal. You are feeling a tremendous loss right now of your trust, the loss of your optimism.
But I sense that you know that there is another part of you that recognizes that you have to look beyond your hurt and pain. You want to give him a chance to make good on his word. And this is what I believe is the right way to be in this situation.
I don't want to minimize your pain and worry. And I don't want to minimize your anger at his actions. But you need to put the anger away now, you don't need to pretend it didn't happen, just that he is a good man and had a reason for doing this even though it was hurtful. It also doesn't mean you aren't going to be observant; you need to keep your eyes open, but you need to only keep them looking for problems in the background, not make it a big deal. Trust in this one thing: if a problem does arise, you'll have plenty of opportunity to see it; you don't have to be super vigilant.
He wants you more than he wanted other women. He's willing to show you this and he's shown you this in the past. Well, if you don't encourage him, then you are telling him to go ahead and reject you for them in the end. So even though you are hurt, I need you to realize that he has chosen you over them. He wants your trust again and he's making efforts to regain it.
Well, then, it's vital for you to encourage him to treat you well and to treat you lovingly. To appreciate it and let him know when he does it right.
Trust is not a guarantee about the future or about what is in a person's heart. Trust is a mutual agreement among people. You can't ever be certain about what anyone will do in the future or what is in their heart now. So how do you trust in someone or anyone? You have to bestow trust in them. Trust, then, is something that you decide to grant. How do you want to bestow trust?
I recommend that you do it by trying to get to the positives here: he chose YOU. Well, then, tell him how happy you are about that. Recognize he did choose you.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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