My husband is such a good man. I appreciate that that sounds a crazy thing for me to say at this point, but I've seen how destroyed he's been lately and that's because he mustn't really recognise himself just now. But he obviously has told this girl that he loves her (she writes, "I love you more" in the card and he obviously can't decide what to do. I've booked us a relate session on Tuesday and we also talked about going on holiday. I teach so I've said I can't let this drag on into next term and that instead of this passive-aggressive to and fro we've been doing for months, we just need to go for it and see if it can work. What if he can't give her up, though? He's going to feel terrific guilt whichever side he picks and I don't know how to support him with that.