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I was really angry at this person today because she took an attitude with me publicly and I sent her a text telling her every single reason why she was wrong on the merits. I ended with the threateningly ambiguous comment that "she should stay on my good side." She hasn't gotten back yet (that was about 9 hours ago). How do you think she'll respond? She posted something on her facebook account about what a nice day she was having with her daughter, so I'm thinking maybe my message didn't get through and that I'm going to deal with this trouble again?
P.S. I didn't mean to be threatening of course, it just came out that way.
Welcome to my couples workshop, where people 18-80 of diverse cultures & orientations have come to explore their questions and find a path of heart. Digital messages can spread pretty far and wide, so if you are worried that you've given the wrong impression and you don't want other people to misinterpret it, go ahead and revise your statement to the woman you texted.
Well, I'm conflicted about it. Because she has a habit of being kind of disrespectful to me, and lately I'm really big on respect
I did what I always do best in these situations: I clearly, calmly, and carefully laid out all of the facts.
And she didn't get back to me- because there was nothing to say. I was right.
It's possible that her "good day with daughter" comment was a purposeful attempt to show herself "staying positive" so anyone else who might be reached by those endless ripples in the digitalandscape would not think SHE was sowing any ill-will. If she's being that subtle, and you don't want to be perceived as trying to take back an unthoughtout aggressive comment, then perhaps its better to say nothing. The social media sites can be quite a bit like the worst side of high school gossip.