Hi, I am with my partner for 4 years now. We have a 1yr old boy together. He has two boys from a previous relationship. they are 9 and 6. I have two daughters from a previous marriage. Aged 11 and 9. Recently my partner has been in contact alot with his ex. She asks him "where did we go wrong" and says the boys ask her if dad will marry mum? Please explain what she means by this. What is she trying to achieve? His ex lives abroad. They will be visiting at the end of this year. Last time we paid for the boys airfares. She tells the boys to ask daddy when are they able to come to Australia? Is she trying to tell him to pay for the boys airfare again? Why does she talk through the children? I find this most annoying. She has also asked if he is happy? He responded to her text message what kind of question is that? Is it normal that she constantly asks him to buy her perfumes, ipads, iphone, camera's? If he doesn't then she withholds the boys from seeing him. He has bought her all these things. Where should he draw the line, as I don't like him buying her these things. She should buy it herself.
I amended my question. The other questions have not been answered.
Hi just one more thing. I have gone into my partners email and Facebook account as I felt he was being secretive on Facebook. Since I told him I went into his account and I wasn't happy with what I saw, he has now deleted his Facebook account and changed his email password! He says I am a loser for doing that. What I did find is that he had been flirting with his ex's asking if they still thought about him as he thinks of them. They are all with new partners, some even married. Why does he do this? They responded that he would approve of their new partner and he continued to tell them he can't handle them getting married! Now I believe his entertainment is with his ex that he knows she wants to get back with him. He texts her etc much more now and deletes his texts as he says it will offend me? He always talks about the future as a family etc. he now has told me and his ex that he won't marry anyone as all women are crazy. Is he telling me something in a roundabout way? His ex couldn't stand me when they hardly spoke to one another, now she is warming up to me. I feel very insecure and disrespected by both. I don't have enough confidence in him now for the two of them to be left alone after what he's told me. He wants me to give him my absolute trust as he does with me. I'm confused by his mixed messages. Is there somehow I can approach him as to where he wants to be as he prefers to keep quiet and let me do all the talking. That is me saying I would like to be with him.