Me and my girlfriend have been together for a while now and just recently started under going a lot of stress and found ourselves in a routine that is kind of making things boring. she said she isn't sure if she wants to be with me because of part routine and part relationship. She tells me I'm the most amazing person that has ever happened to her and that shes never had anyone love her like I do but something is off. I don't know what to do and I really needs some advice o don't want to lose her. She is afraid to fall in love again because of her ex and I feel like she's letting that effect her. She said that she's happy I'm amazing that she's scared to break up because she knows that she won't find anyone like me again but she's bored with our routine and doesn't know if she's ready
This book can help her move beyond her fears of the past.
If she has abandonment issues due to childhood trauma of neglect or abandonment, then she may require some dialectical behavior therapy.
If she says this is the case, she can work on herself with this excellent workbook":
Keep telling her how you feel and keep giving her the support she craves to counter her insecurities. You have a lot going for you that can hold this relationship together through this hard time. Take action, however, while you can.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
I shall keep you both in my prayers.
Elliott. The relationship before was extremely unhealthy.
She really has put a whole new look on love and says she will never be able to move the same again. she said she was so sure that this girl was the right person yet it didn't work at all. now she said she will always be unsure. She also said she is young and feels like she wants to live.
To be honest we are best friends more than anything I've never felt so my self with anyone before. so whatever she wants to do to live and explore life I am right there with her. I love her more than anything in this world and I appreciate her and everything she does. I just feel like part of it is that we have consistently done the same things and haven't really been us and the other part maybe she just doesn't think I am it for her. I recommened doing new things and letting us get settled into out new place because right now we are in a bedroom in student living. Do you think that this is fixable