Dear XXXXX,You say that you want to save your relationship but evidently you don't want to do the work. Did you expect several paragraphs to cure your very dysfunctional relationship and when I suggested to the proper thing to do you just got angry, which seems to be something that you do that is not good for your relationship.I told you exactly what you need to do and you should be thankful for the good advice. However, I do not think that you have the patience to do the work, judging on how you responded to my kind and thoughtful answer. You cannot win people over to your side by anger and unkindness.I wish you good luck, because that is what it is going to take.
The insight you are looking for will tell you that you are both angry, impatient, quick to react, defensive, and much too shortsighted to do anything other than react immediately in a defensive and negative manner. Knowing that won't help you. You need someone to help you put it into action. You need to learn how to be calm and stop fighting like children. It is time to grow up and you need a guide to help you learn how to behave like an adult. I do care and told you what you need.
You just want a quick fix, but that is not how you grow up. You have to learn how to behave properly towards the ones you love.
I am very aware of my impatience and I know it is a fault of mine. however he is not even talking to me so how do I go about getting him to do so in order to get the counseling needed. and I was also wondering about his jealousy and always leaving and coming back. I guess what I was looking for was a more in depth reply regarding my entire question