Thank you for your heIp thus far with my concerns on my relationship. I do have something else that i would like your insight on. As you know, i have been in this relationship for almost three ears. He was active military and has retired since we have been together. He has 3 children i have 2. My children are grown up and in the military, he has a 9, 16 and 20 year old and they all live with their mother in georgia. Now, since i have known him, he has taken 9 hr trips to see his children and spend time with them. I have never been invited to go with him. I have been on trips to orlando with my children and he has been invited and has attended those trips several times. I have grown to have so much respect for him as a father, because he shows me that he takes care of his children and goes to no limit to be with them. That was one thing that really attracted me to him.
I recently found a picture of his ex wife in his wallet. He told me in March of this year that he was getting a divorce from her. This divorce has come after 5 years of them being seperated. When we first met, he told me he was divorced! I found out about this divorce through a text message that he sent to his wife by accident when i received the text, i called him to ask him what it was all about and he told me that he sent it to me as well to let me know. As of June, he stated that he is finally divorced from her. But why is there a picture of her in his wallet? There was another picture of her but it was with him and their little girl.
Last scenario is this; His youngest is staying here with us for little while until his school starts up. Ever since he has been here, my boyfriend has slept in the room with him every night. His son is a doll and really clings to him. I guess when he was in the military, his presence in their home was so limited maybe that is the reason why he clings to him so much. But, our time alone has been none. He has left me alone in the bedroom every night thus far. My feelings are very hurt right now, and this has made me feel very bitter towards him(boyfriend) that i does not even matter anymore.
This whole relationship has seemed to put a big toll on my heart. I have become unhappy and stressed out. I have tried to talk to him before about our relationship and my feelings, but it seems that it is not a priority to him at nor my feelings.
What do you think?