Thank you for your question.
I feel he wants to really work things out but does not even know where to begin.
I feel that he needs a little guidance and you need to show him exactly what you want in a relationship from him.
I want you to both sit down and discuss what you both want and need in this marriage.
I do feel he wants to work this out and I feel you both need to take the steps to work things out.
You both love each other and that is why you both want to work things out and you both do not want to lose each other.
I do not feel it is because you are getting a bonus. I feel he loves you and wants to see this work.
You mentioned that he said you both have differences and some times those differences are what attracts people to each other.
You have made compromises because of these differences.
He needs to be more understanding of how you feel and really listen to what you feel is going to help this relationship.
I think that if you leave or take a break he will push harder to make his relationship work.
The reason why is because he will get nervous that he is going to lose you and that you no longer want to try.
You no longer want to live in this environment so things need to change. I would tell him how you feel and if things do not change then you need to tell him that you feel that things can work out but he needs to really try.
A relationship needs to be 50/50.
It's not about one person compromising all the time.
I feel he is afraid to lose you and does not know how to fix things.
I feel that you both should write down what you both feel needs to change.
This will help in getting your feelings across. Some times it is hard to say all you need to say so it is easier to express yourself in a letter.
Ask him to write one as well. It can also be a e-mail.
I del what you both need is a fresh start together.
*I feel what you both need is a fresh start.
You need to both remember the reason why you both started dating. It helps to remember how things once were, even recreating your first date.
It help jog your memory and brings up good feelings of when you both began to fall in love.
What happens is life gets in the way.
When you first start dating you are focused on impressing each other and learning about each other. Then as the relationship gets comfortable things begin to change. When a relationship starts you are both focused on each other. Then as the relationship grows things in life become the focus. Relationships begin to get into a routine.
You both need to get back to that time where things were new and when they first started. You need a second chance together. You both love each other and want to work things out. I feel this is what you should do work things out.
Thank you you again for your question.