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Thanks for joining me. When did he and she break up?
"He was giving so much and she wasn't..." Sounds like he may have been a bit burned in the relationship and he's a bit stung and may be stand offish because of it- or careful.
You professed your feelings for him in a letter correct? He is aware of how you feel?
That will do it every time when intoxicated- happens to the best of them!
Sorry about the dui and hospital- not a great memory huh?
This guy may have lots of feelings for him. Allow him to seek you out- if he does- you will have a better idea how much he's into you.
lots of feelings for you
Good example of this is when you mentioned you were leaving for a few days- and that seemed to "get his attention"
You can do lots of guessing, and filling in the blanks about what this means- the what?! he responded with- but unless he's willing to be more forthcoming with his feelings you are left guessing.
I know it's a game but pulling away, allowing him to seek you out more, is at least worth a try- see how he responds. Certainly an option is to straight up ask him- yet again, you want to be careful of looking "needy", instant turn off.
These affairs of the heart are sometimes hard to make sense of in our brain- cuz it's the heart
Since it has not been too long since his relationship ended- allowing a bit of time for him to "get her out of his system" so to say, may be best- he may be one mixed up fella- and time can be the true healer for him- Even if it ended for good reasons it is still a loss. For now keep the contact with him light and upbeat- no pressure, no demands. Yes- can easily mispercive and mis communicate- we are not always clear on what we are really trying to say, or don't ask for clarification enough when we don't understand. Yes, have fun- light. Sounds like there is definitely chemistry. Ya- like "what are you trying to say buddy" lifting the shirt.
Hey maybe it was "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" lol again- so many ways to perceive actions and comments.
I don't care how old we are- feeling strong feelings for someone is intoxicating- and crazy making at the same time.
Sounds so natural- keep it on that level- build a strong foundation of friendship-
Friendship- and having your life and activities outside of the relationship with him is important for your own self care and self worth
Put some energy into boosting your self worth- identify your strengths and build on those- while at the same time hanging out with him when the opportunity arises
Even if we don't feel confident we can "act" confident, such as pulling away a bit- the "playing hard to get" card- let him work for you
You are welcome- remind yourself "I am worthy" :)
You are worthy- corny as it sounds- put words of validation on your mirror. Going to college- you deserve the good stuff, the success- Even if you are anxious- I think we fear how successful we can be vs. that we will fail
Does your college have counselors available? What you describe is so very common and a bit of support might help you sort things out.
Writing in a journal can help- along with feelings- identify every day your strengths, and things you are grateful for.
Can you do college and work on stuff from your past- a bit of variety- and balance?
We all have a story to tell- a past, hurt, etc. It's a human condition.
You are welcome- glad to help a bit!
Let me know if I can assist you again. A bit of life coaching can help boost your self worth a bit.
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