I do think that I have broken more in this relationship than she has. I lied about the arrows, I lied about the speeding ticket and the defensive driving course. I have planted doubt. So I see where I have more to fix than she does. But we both have missed texts due to technology malfunctions, and though I might get a little upset, I usually just say "Text when you can". I don't think I've ever been the ass to her that she is being to me, though I am sure she would have a different opinion of that. It is a damn shame that two forty something year old adults have to sneak around like little school children to date because God forbid if her family found out. Well maybe it is time for you to grow a pair and say to hell with your family? You're a grown woman who can make her own choices. But I don't think she is capable of that. Furthermore I am not going to keep dating under the same situation as we've been dating, sneaking around, hiding, being secretive, can't talk about wanting her and her son to be with me...etc. So, though I do want to fix this. She is a good woman and a great mother. The ball may be in my court to fix it...but it takes two to play ball!