Yes…I left Jerry in November and he has attempted relentlessly to get me back and convince me that he can change, but I really don’t see that happening. And the longer I’m away, the more I realize I made the right decision.
I’d like to get your advice on another situation…and hopefully it doesn’t break any “codes”, as it’s regarding the therapist I have been seeing weekly since last September. She has helped me tremendously and I’ve grown a lot since seeing her. But I’m wondering if I’m putting her on a pedestal in an unhealthy way and seeking her approval too much. Our relationship has become almost a friendship. She has told me that she really looks forward to seeing me, probably more than she should and that she likes our 5pm appointments because it’s the end of the day and we can relax and “goof off”. She told me about her singing and playing the piano in her church so I went the Sunday she said she’d be there and she sought me out after and was so excited to see me and gave me a big hug. We always hug after our sessions but this was a little different…probably because of the “non-formal” atmosphere. She also burned me a Christian music CD and has given me books to read. I had asked her one time, pretty much knowing the answer, if we could ever do anything outside of the sessions and she said that we couldn’t because it would change the relationship, but that she had also thought about that.
As you can tell, I’m wanting to think that I’m “special” but is this just a normal client/therapist relationship? And can clients and therapists ever be friends once counseling is over?
Thank you so much!
I wish you great success. This relationship, whether professional or friendship, seems worth having.
Move cautious but don't let it go.
I wish you great success and I am glad to hear that you have moved on.