Thank you for your reply. Yes he is extremly sorry. He seems so miserable right now for hurting me.
He said he has stopped the affair but he does still work this woman as both as supervisors they need to communicate about work.
And yes he does answer all my questions that i ask. He doesnt see why i find the need to ask so many but he does answer them though.
We were living together in my moms basement and now he moved back into his parents home. Should we both still remain talking? Or should we cut off communication and give each other space to figure things out?
Also my mom knows what he did and now pretty much my whole family and friends know as well. This makes it more difficult if we do mend our relationship and i give him another chance that everyone will not look at him the same way. And my moms has been cheated on before getting married, then ended up marrying him and then he cheated on her again which led to their divorce... so she is a very bitter woman on the topic and has no faith that men can change and that it will only be a matter of time before he does it again.
As i am focusing on myself right now healing and seeing if I am willing to give him another chance i am afraid at how everyone else will react once ive made my decision and if it is to give him another chance.
It was by listening to others that got me in this mess with everyone knowing the truth. I confided in someone i trusted and he convinced me that i needed to tell my mom.. so i did.. but i already knew what she was going to say. and then when I asked her not to tell anyone else in the family.. just tell ppl something simple that wedding is off.. she says i am defending him and what he did.. and that ppl need to know the truth and that i need to realize the truth. so i couldnt stop her from telling everyone. which meant that i then had to tell my friends the truth because then they would of found out eventually from her and now the whole world knows.
She is so one minded about this topic and doesnt realize that everyone is different. not everyone is like her ex husband. He never acted the way my fiance is acting now. He is doing all the 3 important things you listed. Her ex(my stepdad) just kept the lie going and denied everything and didnt seem sorry at all. never apologized.
my fiance wouldnt stop crying.. and still cant stop saying sorry. he still says he loves me and misses me.
it is all so confusing cause i really just dont know what to do yet.
as much as i beleive ppl can change i just hate that everyone will look at him differently.
and i still cant decide whether talking to him is the right thing to keep doing. i find that i feel better after i talk to him. because when i go for a long period of the say without or like last night went to bed without talking to him i find myself wondering what he is doing, where he is and if he is with anyone (meaning that other woman).
the fact that he still works with her bothers me.