he told his baby mama
he told his baby mama that
he told his baby mama , not to tell his daughter when he coming he wanted to surprise her and he just been hanging out on the bay and should of been went on the road and he knows his fiance , is at home and waiting for him to get backand his daughtermom is wating for him to come see hi daughter if he miss her so much why he keep post poing the days and he knows im at home wating for him to return and i miss him dearly and he knows im wating for him to get there and get back
and i miss him im just ready for him to get there and get back and he just lagging around and making the days longer and he know h im at home missing him dearly and he says that hes gonna drive to north carolina on sunday and drive out there first he said monday than weds now its sunday i think his sister is making him do something he dosent wanna do and always forcing it and she even tried to go with him he told her no and hes doing by himself and why wont he just fly get there and get back and he has the money and flying is chaeper
It sounds too me that the sister should not influence him to do something he does not want to do because it is very clear he is post poking because he does not want to go.
One thing when it comes to family members is that have to realize that he has to do what is best for him when it comes to his daughter. It is not up to his sister to make these decisions. He has to do what he is comfortable with. You can not force someone to do something they do not ant to do it is not fair too him.
She should stay out of it and let him make these decisions. He now because he is torn on what to do is away from ou and you miss him. If this wasn't pushed upon him he would be home with you.
I feel he needs to speak up to his sister and tell her that this is his life and he needs to move forward and live his life how he wants.
Some times family members think they are doing the right thing, but instead they are really causing problems and the reason is because they are not thinking of him they are thinking of themselves.
He needs to say I need to do what is best for me and my fiancé.
Because if he doesn't she will keep continuing to control his life. Someone can only control your life if you let them.
He needs to just say No, I can't do that I have a life with my future wife.
Yes now he says he might leave thursday from
the bay area and drive down there , than he saying sang saturday he is also running low on money and has no job he been even spending his savings,account and whats in his checkings wont even cover his whole trip
hes driving there,he says he gonna stay two weeks gad,there and back and his room is gonna be 1500 than he has too feed himself and have money todo rhings with his dauhhter he only has 9,000 left in his savings
when he left he had more in both accounts he had git a settlement for 22,000 he down to 10,000 now and spending that too while his up north and he has rotbuy car parts and fix his car for the,drive if he has t
live off this why is up north just blowing his money and hes gonna come back from carolina broke,he cannt afford this trip but post poning it and still trying to go.
He really should reconsider this trip because he can not go broke trying to make this trip.
Specially since his daughter does not know he could just explain that he does not have the money to take this trip and has to wait to save money.
He needs to rethink this trip, is there anyway you could say too him to maybe postpone the trip when he has more money that he can spend?
if he cares about his child so much why is he just post poing the days and havnt hit the road yet and everyday is an excuse and like today he made up several excuses not to hit the road today and now he saying has to take his sister dog to get nutered tommrow he has to bath her dogs go see his grandparents and his aunt and uncle he just came from the bay two weeks ago than he said he was gone hit the road on thursday for his trip and now he saying friday now sunday he is getting low on funds i checked his bank account and he gave his baby momma money yesterday for his daughter and said he opened up a savings account for his daughter i tried to book hima good del for his trip 1,200 for a rental car and room and ticket round trip
The sister sounds like she is keeping him there to help her with things.
he said he want to drive to relieve the anxeity with seeing his child after five yrs he didint invite me and said he had to do this himself and he has a women at home that misses him dearly and he still havnt left for carolina and in the bay area just lagging around i told him he should of flew but he told me stop trying force feed things and ,ake his time shorter with his child and that he wanna drive a bucket he bought from somebody off the streets he has to do the breaks motor mounds and bushings on it before he leaves but he dosent do what he should to the car he has been helping her unpack things from moving she asked to go with him and he told her no too
she been also nagging a him to see his daughter rather so knows it are not hes getting low on money and he has no job ,he just drew out 1,000 out of his savings account yesteday
and he only have 1700 in his checking and needs 5,000 for this trip so now he has 9,000 left in his savings he told me he gave his child mom money and open a savings account for his daughter
hes been up north blowing money he dosent have and my thing is do he care im at home waiting for him to return hies up north doing everyting but trying to get to north carolina and back
It is almost like he feels he needs to make this trip but he is not thinking clearly when it comes to money.
He needs to understand that his funds will not last forever and he is not working.
It sounds like he wanted to take some time by himself to think.
he must dont miss me or his daughter and his sister got him up there just blowing money and doing what she wants and i bet she told him not too take me with him too see his daughter because she tried to go but everyday he has an excuse why hes not on the road already
It sounds like she is controlling the situation. she is stopping him from leaving because she is looking for him to do things.
and everyday i check his funds its getting lower so is it the money hes thinking about the money or the drive or what others gonna say if he dont go
He is listening to his sister too much and not thinking of himself and what he needs to do.
Special when it comes to money, he can not just spend all this money his sister needs to understand.
because he talks all highly of his child around people and how hes gonna go see her and than hes just been stallling all this time he told me he was stopping up north to get his car paointing by his cousin than he change his mind and been up north just lagging
yes and should of told him to get on the road already she must be trying to get him to change his mind for her too go alone and his sister has commited adultry three times in her marriage
i think if he dosent go hes worried about what people gone say
His sister could be holding him up so he does take her.
His personality seems that he worries a lot about what people think and he needs to think of what is best for you and him first.
yes and im at home waitng for hi to return and hes just up north doing everything else but getting there and back
It seems like he doesn't want to go that he just wants to stay up North for a little while.
and has a women at home and a child in another state waitng for him she is selfish and is missing up our relationship
I agree that is very clear she is thinking of herself and not is what is best for you and your relationship.
he left on the 2 and its the 5th and he said he was goanna stay two weeks with his child but a hotel room is gonna cost him 12 00 for two weeks and he has not book anything in advance
I don't feel he booked anything because he has no idea when he is going to see his daughter. His sister keeps stalling him. I think you should ask him what is going on and why is he stalling as if it because of his sister.
when i try he says that he dosent want me stressing him out over the trip and im being selfish of his time with his child
he says what is two weeks but hes beenin the bay area for almost a week he has to get backbefore school starts and his registration for class in on june 18 he said it takes him 3 day sto get there
and three to get back and further more days going by he says for the fourth of july he will e on the road and driving back home i told him thats dangerous
He needs to be reminded of everything he has to do so he knows. I would remind him of registration and tell him he should not be traveling on the fourth of July.
He needs to see and understand that you are worried about him and miss him. Explain that you are supportive of what he is doing but you miss him very much and can't wait until he gets back. Explain that the reason why you suggests things is only because you care and love him.
i have and he stills get mad and frustrated and the reason i cant go with him is because his sister tried he told he no and sh etalked him out of taking me and she has him post poing his trip and staying longer from me and his child and when i give him advice he gets mad at me and says im always against what hes trying to do
he only has 500 in his savings and 1.800 in his checking yesterday he had 9,000 in his savungs whats going on
he still havnt left for his trip either
i think its time for me to walk away from this relationship he keps lying to me and post poing his trip and money is being spent and taken and he dont tell me anything
and he hides his fiances from me
and his money situation and fiances and
its not right
what should i do
im very confused and stressed
I feel that you need to get the truth all that money going out of his account makes no sense.
There seems to be something he is not telling you.
He needs to be honest about what he is doing.
You should not be home waiting for him to come home when you do not know when he is even leaving he is spending all kinds of money and he has no reason why he is staying so long in the bay area.
I feel you should ask him what is going on and do not let him turn it around on you that you are not being supportive, you have the right to know what is going on.
he says hes gonna leave for north Carolina this Friday and hes gonna stay for like three days and get his daughter use to him and see if the mom will let her come back with him for like week and he will fly her back and because his grand father has cancer and hes 84 and he has a terminal illness its getting worse and h\is other family wants to meet her
he money in his accounts is still dropping and he says he gonna leave this Friday but i haven't seen i herd anything about it so far , he is still attending to his sister needs but i did tell him i will not due this again or be in this situation with him again and he needs to go to court and get joint custody but hes thinking about the back pay child support hes been trying for years to be civil with her she has two other kids one from a past relationship and one from her new husband they was never in a relationship they had a one night stand i don't think shes over him and uses his child against him and she told him in the beginning she wanted a husband for her other child he said after that he cut it short after a second date and nine months later she called him saying shes pregnant he said she tried to trap and him also , but he don't like her in that way he told her before she got pregnant , he didn't say me meeting her he said that to his family up north iam 6 hours away from the bay area . she messing up our realtionship and he act like he dosent see it hes giving her all the power why waist 3,000 to drive down there and hope she will let you bring your child back just get a lawyer
yes i totally i agree he i told him , how i felt and i put my feelings out there and i told him that i dont ever want to be in this situation ever and this will be the last time i get left behind and i told him.he gives her too much of power and she has a husband and A new baby but we cant have his daughter in our presences and we are her other family and he
has to spend.
spend.all this money.and.days away from.me cause she wont let go he asked her thousands of times can his daughter come out here and he has been video calling his daughter and when.he calls her the mom.put it on speaker phone and its a wgile bunvh of noise in tje background and he cant even.heree his
he been in up north for a week now and hasnt still taken this trip
everyday its an excuse and money is being blowed and getting lower
i dont know why he wont fly that car is in no condition to drive that far and hes not even resting before he get on the road .
hes on the road now hes in Oregon and keeping me posted every hundred miles and says he loves me every-time he tells me his miles and he asked me on his way back from north Carolina if i wanna fly out to Seattle and we can have dinner and meet up at the airport at the sky tower and that he also wants to spend another week in the bay with his family and when i fly out i can ride back with him on the road
i think hes feeling a little guilty and i think when he gets to NC hes gonna fly me out to be with him he seems a little lonely and stressed out and needs a support system he knows that his childs mom and her husband and his daughter gonna be together all the time when they meet up and hes gonna be a thrid wheel.
yes and he calls and texts more often
he is having car trouble and is stuck in washington right now his muffler was put on backwards and hes at his brstfreind house trying to fix the situation and getting a little frustrated
he should make it there on tuesday he said hes gonna have a serious talk with his childs mom and let her know how much he had to go threw to see his child and she needs to let
hes gonna fly me out to NC Carolina after he get there and get settled in
he bought my ticket today one way to NC im gonna fly out 9 nine days after him and i will get to meet his daughter than were gonna go up north too see his family for a few days together and drive cross country together i don't know what made him change his mind but he did we could of just flew together at first smh i will be flying out on the 23rd of June. i never flew before either a little nervous but also excited to see him and meet his child hopefully his child mom do-sent get jealous and wont let the child around me and him together.
im emotionally overwhelemed
yesterday he posted on his facebook wall post
that he got to visit his old airforce base and that what he wouldnt give to
be with his giy freinds and the girls out there
i feel he should of said what he wouldnt give to see his fiance it spunds like he wants to be single at times and thats dusrespectful.too me
i understand but bringing up women from his pasti dont like that and hrs driving only threw idaho he still havmt made it to Nc hes beenn on the road since sat to get there and had car trouble twice and hes sleeoing in his car to rest cause his funds or low i havnt herd from him since 5 pm yesterday .
he had no reception i got a hold of him.
were incerpible again i cant wait until i fly
out to see him on the 23
i know im so excited and i miss him so much
im gonna make a scene at the airport and run and jump into his arms lol ......
the trip was fun and exciting , i met his daughter and i got to fly for the first time and site see
but what i dont understand is before the trip
he spent a week and two days up north with his sister than on the way back from our trip he stopped by there for a day and catered to his sister needs she has a husband who disent work and is retried with good pay , before wr left that day she called my fiance and said het brother in law needs his car fix and russell just drove 3000 miles cross country to his daughter he drove back 3000 miles thanhe was home for a week and now back down in the bay for almost a week to attend to his sister needs and her in laws and he dosent work any where and is paying three hundred in gas there and back and they are only gonna give him something for working on the car and his arm is injured and swells when he drives he needs to tell her no and dosent and its bothering me.and keeping us aprt
his mother was a drug dependant person
they went from foster home than to there grandparents
house his mom passed when he was thrity
his sister has been married once commited adultry
and has two kids and two by her new husband, he is retried and makes good pay and dosent help her much just fiancially i dont really like going down there with him because the drive is to long and he wants to crash at his sister house and its fifthy when i say something he says im complaing and its somewhere to sleep and he save 49 bucks on a room i have told him over and over again shes messing up or relationship and hes mote there than here and he even put off a job intetveiw and resumefor his sisters husbands brothers car he has no job either and low on money and has a injured arm from a year ago hes noy suppose to be doing heavy work like that no more shes taking advantage and its wtong she has a husband and my fiance is there more than here and he nrrds to realize shes about to damage a 6 yr realtionship because he cant say no....she had him working onetime in 112 weather at the barn dweating to death.....
yes had a rougher child hood than
him and been in foster care and me and brother are close and i know when to say no
he always want me to say no and sacrifice my family
for him and he can never say no to his sister and her in laws i worry about him being stable and he blew all his settlement and needs to be looking for a job instead hes catering to his sister in law needs for her
and her realtionship with her husband isnt good because she commited adultry he only help her finacially they dont even sleep in the same bed and shrs taking my time away from my fiance and hes puttong his priorites last and i might tell her if he dont and shes selfish causing us to argue and fight he was homeless and broke once and his family wouldnt even help him there not gonna pay his rent or bills are find him a job hes goes up north constantly and i have kids and a life at home i cant always go and sometimes i go and his sister kinda act like she cant speak first or say hi and be lookimg surprised when i walk in the door behind him i have expressed the way i feel about the whole sistuation and told him that its putting a told on our relationship
yes i strongly agree he was suppose to be out there until weds i herd his sister asking him to help her build another stall for her horses
and he is trying to ix a car and work on her needs at the same time she herd me on the phone with him and he kept saying i gotta get home and she was still asking for his help she herd me asking when hes coming home its causing fights and arguments in our relationship
and i keep telling him and thats what i said when he cant run up there than what ...and further more he puts of what he came to do for her he never ever tells her no ! his sister husband is not right and her relationship is messed up and so take my fiance and make him drive 6 hours from home and help you and your husbands in laws , watch before he lives to come home she gone be asking him when he coming back shes gonna think of something i said when he does hes can take his belongings and not come back there, he cant even live with his family one time his has been homeless and couldn't go to them he was 60 short on his rent and couldn't go to them is no! talking too him and no communication in this relationship his sister has him so wrapped around his finger and i sick of it he said after this he want go up north for a while
that witch will think of something and like i said shes the reason while he still not home yet shes over working him and keeping him around for her needs shes do-sent want us happy or together he quick enough to tell me off and say im needy but will never tell his sister he says that his sister don't make him feel guilty so that's why he helps her yeah that's why he can never say no to her and hes been gone for six days straight than before that he went may 25 threw the 28 and than he went from June 1 threw the 8th than from the 31 - 2 i was with him that time now you went from July 7 th and to the 12th the majority of the time im home by myself while hes up there helping her and sitting under her like a lost puppy . than he was in Carolina by himself for almost two weeks before i met up with him than we get back home for a week and she called and asking and he left soon as she called and says he don't go up there often and that that's why he help his family so much , he never ever bash hsi sister and tell her off like he do me when i ask him for something
yes he does he dosent have no job
and blew his settlement and trying to get joint custody
of his daughter he is very unstable and putting his needs of to
be hero up north and he owes back pay child support
and pay it he wasted a week trying to play hero and needs to be looking for a job.he just told me thats i try to munipulate him and make him.feel gulity i told him i love him and hopefully when hes into a bad situation i hope they come rescue himand for now own when he needs help to ask his familythe ones he run to and drivr six hours for and do everything they ask for now own lets see if they drive six hours for him and those people are his sistwr husbands family not his bilogical family only his sister and grandfather and one xousin name jason and jasmine is his family out there
i have put it in that way and he says
his family is where his heart is, i just told him
i hope for now on when u need something
they help you because im not anymore
he said im just trying to rush him home for my needs
and the sad part about is i havnt seen him in six days he should be rushing home to see me but i guess that dosent matter to him
he says that he misses me but not my opinons cause it causes drama
and hangs up the phone.
yes this moring he got mad at me for
telling him child support can take his taxes
for child support and said i was making excuses for him not to use my kids on his taxes and that he knows he has a child custody case going on i told him to even ask his lawyer he went off on me hard
if i do im starting drama andhe dont wanna here it
and thats that i will no longer try to help him he will learn the hard way...for now own
i will focous on me and my kids and myself
exactly and he has lost his support system with his case with his child and im not gonna get involved anymore
and he still attending to his sister needs and not home he say he leaving today and we can go night swimming but he still hasnt left yet smh ...
ok i will
ok i will i reveive a call from him
hes still helping his sister at the barn.no.night
swimming tonight he also got his car mirror torn off by
another driver and it happend on the way to help his sister at.the barn
its time for me to.walk away.from this relationship
im not happy he.puts her first and ive been.home by.myself for seven days and im bored and lonely and he disent really care all he knows is his sister needs and forget mines im.about to cry myself to sleep i dont know when he will ever come.home everyday is something else with his suster goodnight
thats karma from doing me wrong with his sister and he said see what happends when you try to help someone i didnt say nothing and he said he gone leave after he eat and shower he will call me when he hit the road he said he wont go back up north for a while
he will make it by 4am in the moring.
when.he was suppose to been left.he got his car damage
for his sister smh
yes trying to help his sister
he got his car damaged
he said he might have to go to court
out there for his accident it was a hit and run
if the cops found out who did it thats why he needs to sit down and see his sister aint gone get his mirrior fixed on his car he needs 300 bucks to fix his side mirriot
because she showed up to the barn late and not with all rhe parts he had to go back and fix it and ended uo in a accident he was suppose to leave earilet that day but ended up staying longer to help her and ser whay happends smh like i said none of his family helped him smh.......
yes i totally agree
and he said he wont go that way for a while
unless it has to do with alot cars needing work done and is worth the labor money and drive and trip
he said he was wore out with his sisters brother in laws dads car
it took almost a week just to shuffle too both of there needs
he learned this time lol
it took his car to be wrecked and
his time he was so exhausted
when he got back and was happy to see me.
he mighy have to go back for a police
line up for the hit and run accident
ew he didnt say when but he said it wull be like for
two days his sister is gonna find away to.make it more than two days for her needs i might go with him too make sure she dontt take advantage
and he comes home i might go and get a room
ok hopefully i can go and i have a babysitter . he really dont have the gas money and school is about to start fir him if he miss the first day he will be dropped the officers are not sating they guranteed that he will win because its his word against the guy the guy us saying he did it and i believe the guy has no insurance and he found of his child mom has a lawyer for the joint xustody case and he running out of lawyer fees and she has 30 days to respond to hissummons annd his lawyer is xharging him by the hour he has no money and blew all of his settlement only his rent money and if hr get dropped from his classes he wont receive his va money an he needs his sxchool money for rent and bills unntil he finds a job he has to livr off his ffiancial aid and student loans but iff hemiss the first days for a police line up he will get dropped from his classes aall because he tried to help his sister that day shes messing up his life and causing negitive problems in his life
im gonna go with him
and we gone leave sat and return monday
and make sure we head back .
he said at first he didnt invite me cause his sister said when i come with him i be rushinf ihim home she has the nerves and the lazu fat husband of hers i told him they just wanna take advantage we had git into a huge arguement about this and he broke up with me and than the next day we git back together and my blood pressure wad really high and i.had to go to the er im ok now and eee ate back together and were mellow now
Lately I've been feeling inscure
And havnt really been getting no affectionate
In my relationship and my sex life is not great
I understand hes stressed out with looking for a job and school about too start and hes going threw a joint custody case with his child mom ive been there for him and try to get him to communicate but he barley opens up , I cook clean cater to him show him affectionate , I even dress up nice and have a nice slim figure he dosent compliment he shows jealously and gets a little possive when other men show interest I understand hes stressed out but he shouldn't neglect me in the process his 8 yr old daughter disrespects him talk backs give him additude and calls her step father dad and him by his name he wants visitation s with a child that dosent wanna except
him but he needs to understand he made it that way hes about too loose me too
I asked him are you ok ? Or do you wanna talk about it
And he says stuff about his daughter not wanting to be in his life and how she dosent respect him and its his fault he waited five yrs to be a father and she has no concern for him I told him before your priorities were out of order , he should always put me and his child first he went out there and spent 3,000 dallors on his child trying to buy her after that she didnt want to have nothing to do with him and when he calls her she gives him additude and disrespect . He got his car hit on the side by a drunk driver because he kept running up north to cater to his sister than he sat down after that , than school is about to start hes trying to find a job around his school schedule but because of his workers comp case nobody wants to hire him in that field and he keeps trying to be in the same career with that injured arm he cant do what he use to do nomore I told him he needs to pick a whole new career and start over.far as affection goes no hugs are kisses when he goes some where he tells me where hes going and when he will be back and far as sex he says sex is nit based on a relationship I told him I wouldn't know because ours went Down hill im 31 hes 38 he knows whats going on and yet hes neglecting my feelings and needs in the relationship and its not right when im stressed I dont neglect him sometimes at night he cuddles with me in bed when I cook for him he says oh you dont have to do that or when I massage his shoulder he dont even say thank you im just not gonna care no more and stop puutting so much effort into it
Sometimes he gets angry and upset when I tell him hes being selfish ans he gets a guilty conscious and tells me that he dosent see a future with me than an hour later im his finance we havnt had an argument in a while and he says he stays because he loves me but he needs to stop using that as a threat that makes me feel inscure sometimes I do recommend that thearphy before marriage his ex wives emotional abused him cheated on him and his mother wasnt a good one either or in his life he been divorce twice and because or adultery from them his wives and other women have dated aborted his kids he was suppose to have four kids and only got one im thinking about giving him one but when I feel more security in the relationship
He is being more affectionate now and we have been very intimate now
Guess he seen how he was losing me and started to realize that he see what it feels like to shut someone out and not care anymore so I guess he picked it up from the demeanor I had .its like he's a new person I told him when ure stressed and your hands are tied there's nothing you can do about certain thing's but wait fir thevout come are he was gone make himself sick.he communicating a lil more also I think hes also bipolar iam and he has all the symptoms lol but I never negeclt his needs when I do have an episode or stresseful times . Some people dont realize what they got until its gone. And I dont think hes joint custody case gonna go threw hes not fiancially stable and dosent have the money to pay for plane tickets for visitations I told him to apply for state disability for his injured arm he still trying to work in the Same car business and nobody wont higher him with a workers comp settlement case and his arm is a liability his child mom said her daughter gonna tell the judge shes uncomfortable and dosent know him and dont wanna come to cali to visit and his lawyers said hopefully the judge isnt bipolar after he paid his attorney s 3,500 I told him I support him but dont put to much into it.
His sister called him and told him that shes been kicked off the ranch which she rents out for 300 a month because she dont keep her area clean and he and I went out there recently and helped her install all those stalls for the horses she wants Russell my fiance to come down next weekend and take them down and rebuild them at the new ranch she s gonna rent from somebody again I told him you have a injured arm already got into an accident last time and got your car hit and he still insist he drive 12 hours and pay 300 in gas money out of his pocket with no job and go help her again he figured since she has his dog and trying to find it a home and have 4 kids and two disabled and a husband who wont help her he should are he fells gulity she keeps on breeding goats and horses and her husband told her that he not dealing with her and all those animals and she said she gone get rid of some of them I told my fiance she needs to sell those animals and attend to her kids she knows he wont say no she keeps calling him and he just wont say no he dosent have reliable transportation are the money for that and im not going because when I do he disrespect me infront of her and when she over exhaust him he takes it out on me and the sleeping arrangements or terrible and he dont get a room cause he spends all his money on gas she dont reimburset him for it and she knows his arm is injured he comes home broke a In pain and takes it out on me she is causing issues again in our relationship and he obviously putting her and some farm animals before me and his priorities and im so...sick of it hes a fool for her nobody else not even her husband wont do it he told me he wasn't gone go up there for a while and when she call he goes im just at wit ends something bads gotta happend for him to understand and its gonna be he 're tare his injured arm or his car gone break down or hes gonna get into another accident he should of learn the first time im gonna stay home and stay out of it And not care anymore im gone tell him for now own to call his sister when hes broke and hurt and stressed out im so sick of her and his bullshit over horses and goats and dogshis health and fiances are way much important than that and he obviously put all this before me and his well being.
He always comming to her rescue thats why she never gonna learn or make her husband do anything why should he when hes her fool and drive 12 hours to help her and spend 300 in gas money and help her with a crippling arm I have discuss the issue with him many time before he don't get it and it causes an argument his sister's is gonna be the reason our relationship is down falling she dont have one or knows how to respect one sometimes I feel like telling her about herself but im not gonna get into it with her he keeps leaving home for day's to attend to her and now he says he wanna move up tthere in 8 months all my support is up here he dosent even have a job im not moving up there so he can attend to her needs he wont even relocate for his daugter I don't understand why he do this for her he put his daughter and me before her and he put his priorities to the side im so sick of this its putting a emotional qnd stress factor on me and I dont go with him anymore because I cant stand her anymore and how she uses him and I hate her for causing a constant gap in our relationship she know what shes doing ans he needs to put me first and when ever we talk about it im wrong and thats his sister and hes gonna help her im abt too walk away from this relationships I'm so tried of this and when he goes im not gonna answer my phone or none of his calls im giving him the silent treatment until he gets back . Its not ok what hes doing.
I asked him yesterday why he keep attending to her like that he said she helped him over the years and that is a lie . I told him im gone take that answer with a grain of salt I said that you need to stop because its the husbandons responsibility not yours they give u know gas money and you drive 12 hrs he told me dont worry about his money its comming out of his pocket and where he goes shouldnt be a problem I told him he is in a commited long term relationship and what effects him financially effects me and the both of us vice versa he said that well his sister dont beg him for stuff like I do so he helps her when he goes dow there I will not answer his phone calls are text and im gonna give him the silent treatment so he can see and feel whats it like to be ignored with feelings and not care he will be very angry and frustrated about this and hurry home to see whats going on if he was at home im gone tell him u would have knowed and hes putting some horses and goats before me and his health and finances I asked him why dont she higher somebody to help her he said oh shes gonna sell some of the animals with an additude im gonna tell him today maybe he should move up there with her and live with her so he can cater to her for the rest of his life and im gonna move on im too young for this he almost 39 and im 30 and he obvious has priority issues and he seems like he aint gone change are tell her no. And he wouldn't like if I told her how I feel and what she should do.because I will tell her about her self his family never came out here or helped him he been broke homeless and injured and he still do it for her. because she has his dog and the husband told her to get rid of the dogs before they get evicted she keeps saying she gone find them a home and dosent she makes him feel guilty with the dog I lost all respect for her and I dont like her anymore and wont go to her house if he gets a hotel room other than that im not going don't even wanna be in her presence and he felt guilty last night and went off on me every time he goes out the there he will be ignored to me like he does my feelings.
I have and he also working on his freind transmission trying to go to class all week during the day than on friday drive six hours up north and help his sister tear down iron fences and rebulid them and than drive back another 6 hours than come home and go to school that moring im gone leave it alone and hopefully he will learn the hard way like re tearing his injured arm or damaging his car again he got hit by a drunk driver the last time attend ing to her and his side view mirror got knocked off she didnt offer to pay to fux it' or no gas money for him to come back down to the do police line up he was on his way to the barn to help her when it happened and he says she there for him that's a joke. Theres so many red flags with him keep going up there and he wont stop he gone have to learn the hard way its gone take something very bad to happen for him to get it. And to stop catering to her.
Yes he drive 6 hour s to tear down iron fences for that are heavy and has to take them to another location and rebuild them for her in all that heat he also have too do it on her time when hes down there and he has ti spend a couple days from home and if something happened s he is too far away and not to mention how frustrated he gets cause he dont wanna drive down there but he does it to satisfied her and she knows shes taking advantage of him and time from our relationship and she dont care because hers is screwed up and she dont have one and further more he can prevent all this and he chooses not too obviously this this is a fight im not gone win and im just not gonna care anymore say anything else about it too him are argue with him about it he dont care about my feelings and he obviously put her first before me which is so sad .... im making plans to leave him and start a New life with a man who really loves me and put me first I deserve so much better and everyone tells me all the time long as his sister got gia dog in her back yard she uses that as leverage
She keep saying she gone find his dog a home and havnt for a year now and animal control got involved and he had to pay a 400 dallor fee because his pitbull bit another dog and her husband is getting very frustrated with the dog and telling her to get rid of it and she just dragging it on and on.and she keep saying she knows an adoption place and wont do it.
well my fiance is in school this semester and he got fiancial aid , applied for student loans which i applied both for him and did all the paper work
im a full time mom and cant work until after i get my surgery on my ankle and do physical therapy its from a slip and fall law suit im on a fixed income and he blew his settlement on basically nothing pretty much he really didnt think about me when he got that either what i dont understand is why when he get large amounts of money he dosent give me anything and buys himself things and rub it in my face if it wasnt for me he wouldn't have neither , but im gonna get my settlement soon i will do the same to him he will not know and i will focus on me and my kids.He dont tell me when he has a large amount of cash he hides it from me but i find out eventually he buys things like video games and dvd movies and buys things like rims for his cars and sound systems he almost 40 yrs old and wont grow up and he dont offer to buy me nothing or give me anything total he recived 8,000 plus his va check he gets every month for 500.00 i even got the papers for him to file for state disability because of his arm and his workers comp case he cant get a job nobody wont higher him one time he took me shopping when he got his settlement he spent 400 on me and 3,000 on his daughter who he has no relationship with and no respect for him . he ask me whats wrong and he already knows whats wrong i will do him the same way i cannot marry a man like this i jut cant im his last priorty and hes self righteous with money .
when he first got his settlement he went straight too his sister house up north , cash his settlement check for 22,000 gave me only 500 bucks came home for one week left drove across country visited all his army freinds and blew 3,500 driving cross country before he seen his daughter than a week later got to north carolina to visit his daughter spent 3,000 onher stayed for a week and flew me out and we stayed one day met his daughter at the car than drove cross country back home were he was complaing about the motel fees because he thought i was gone sleep in a car at a truck stop with him i told him we could of flew out for a week and flew back than we had to stop back at his sister house again because she have him wrapped around her finger than left from there made it home that was another 3,500 hundred than he got a lawyer trying to get join custody when hes doing out of dispite because his child mom is married andhappy and call another man her father and dosent respect him she havnt seen himin 8 yrs than he lives incaliforina shes in north carolina he dosent even pay child support calls her or skypes the child and told him she dont wanna come out here to visit and she dont know him further more he paid 4,000 for a laywer for a case he not gone win and has no job to get her from north carolina to cali on a plane tickets are expensive and he bought a bucket for 4,000 thats where his settlement went he has nothing to show for his child mother answer to his custody petition and the judge went in her favor and hes still trying to fight it when he has no contact with the child , his sister kinda forced him to do this and the sad part about is his family up north is kinda rascist his child is black and he wants to take her up there to satisfied his sister she dont call her or have no contact either send her nothing for bdays or xmas he put pics up on facebook his family didnt say nothing his grandfather is rascist and his brotherin law he has a handfull of blood realtives up there and the rest are his sister in laws his sister neighbor is a skin head and he want me to be comfortable at her house and sleep in fifthh when we can get a room thats why i dont go unless we get a room.i dont understand he said he would live up north by his sister but wont move to north carolina to be in his child life. he says his sister always there for him but im the one she just uses him until she cant no more and he got his car damaged for her she didnt offer to pay for nothing and he got toll fees from crossing to get into san fransico all this too help he even went in his daughters 500 savings account for gas money to go up north to help his sister he use 300 in gas his child's savings account is gone i told him shes using him and his arm is damaged and workers comp taking him back to court i think they been watching him work on cars while receiving benefits from them he hid that letter from me too . its says there asking for a hearing requiring a judge after his case was closed and settled hean ask his sister for support and i bet he gives her money he bee sending her 300 for the dogs saying its for dog food. smh but i will get my money soon and he will get a dose of his own medicine.