Hi and thank you for your response. I should have also told you that we are in a rather long distance relationship of 80 plus miles between us so some logistical issues of casualness of proximity do not exist. I actually did try to ask her to go to couples counseling several weeks before we broke up when I felt things were going down the wrong path, she thought about it then hesitated and told me that she wanted to get thearapy on her own and that i should do the same. Since then she has began solo thearpy and I have also began to seek a professional advice from a thearpist. However, I am seriously afraid that the more time that goes by that my chance of ever reviving this relationship will dwindle even further. She confirmed to me that our breakup was not over another man but also said she would not sit at home by herself either and was going to date again. I feel that i need to act but I fear this may close the door forever on us if she does not accept. I am in a catch 22 and feel desperate but with little choice if Im going to ever know.