aplogizes for spelling errors or confusion. Background. My daughter is 32. She has modelled but never made it big becasue her heart wasn't in it. Wants to write. But that has always put her at a financial disdvantage. We lived in Sweden 2000 2004 she in London with a man who dumped her, later trying all to get her back. We resqued her then. earlier relationships. One which lasted almost seven weeks. We are back living in Australia. He'd dragged her to London so we could only support her over the phone and financially. Finally when she got a sponsor, pittance but the strength to break off, he's done all to get her back ever since. When he's in trouble. He rings her. His family are wealthy, well known but unsupportive. She was emotionally abused, much we didn't know becasue she didn't see it all at the time. In many ways he also leaned on her, still does, 2.5 years after breakup. We are very close our family and every time she hurts we do. Seh still cares for that man, but she has been damaged. She fell straight back into another realtionship with a French man, wasn't love. He had money again placing her at a disadvatge. Came back home last year, broke up with him.Her and I flew over and helped her home, with dog and packing. Need to mention in a relationship she gives it all she has, heart and soul.
Last October we were back here. She was back writing. She studies online a well, didn't want to go on the dole.
She wnet on Eharmony and met on a man online in the states, checked him out and they fell madly in love. Skyped for hours ever single day. Both started by talking about garbage, everything that was skwed in their lives. Sounds like a cliche, but the whole family agreed, convinced that is was true love. Lots of similarities and history, both fathers grek and such like outdoors, oners, thinkers etc. He's well educated, makes money. Both wnated children, almost identical values, slightly conservative. He'd been married, but not love lasted only moths. Only married because of pressure from his parents. But he had debts. For a quick divorce he gave the ex property agreedto pay of a her creditcard debt of 30000 she'd racked up over 5 months. She never worked, did nothing, didn't cook. In the circles, his parents and those around, wmen are treated like princesses, don't work, cook, clean. His older brother has moved away, broken from the parents. April this year she went over. They'd already talked marriage. Soulmates. Went on like a house on fire. His mother is vicious. My daughter never met her because He had a troubled relationship.
Afte the divorce he'd cut down hours, wanted the simplelife. Eventually they were goin to move out her. They'd planned it all. Rings and everything,talked everything spent every minute when he wasn't working together. Bought her a bike. She came on trips around the state for hearings in his work. Slow she became aware of his money problems. Debts on two properties, two cars and studentloan. His house wasn't finished, no kitchen, but my daughter cooked, made his lunches to save money. Offered all the time to pay and often did for grocereies. Walked his dogs and cleaned. She is nnothing like his ex, makeup free casual. Not into bullshit she says. he loved it. Has never fitted in, had been caught up in money and status but like he said the simple life. A week before the crash they were at a concert he'd been over to his parents aftre ther the mother had threatened she'd die of heartattack. The eldest son has a child in an earlier relationship. Mother calls even the child, her gradndadughter a 'sociopath'?. Lts more which I see no need o get into Right through that night parents texted Ari who eventually had enough, came back six in the morning. Had slept ther, Five minutes away??
The next Thursday another hearing, three hours away. Ari is a alwyer.Decided my daughter stay at home, save money on dogsitting. He rings that night he's screwed (his words) steering on the car 3500. It's all caught up to him debts. In a text to Sara he says, you're going to have to leave. much texting. Finally talks. He's handing the house back to the bank, seven days. sara is naturally upset and at one satge says f**k you. He tells her to get out of his house. he is three hours away, in the midst of a nervous breakdown. Totally cracked. She has no one. I arrange hotel, taxi on the phone. She arranged flight etc. Cried for a week.
He hung up on f**k you. Lots of texting back and forth. She says sorry. he says he wished he could go back but he is screwed, can't be in a relationship. Will pay back money, she doesn't want it. He says everyone always wants something from him. Sara was devastated, we worried so much.
She came back. One last text from Ari glad you're safe back. She texted, worried he'd kill himself. He refused to speak. Has to work 7 days a week, save his license. moved back with parents but they clash. She keeps hoping he'll be back. What can she do. I am so angry. Scared to kill her hope