Deardebra : What you need is closure.
Deardebra : You need answer in order for you to understand all this and he should explain things too you.
Deardebra : I do not feel he has turned his feelings off.
Customer: If I can't get him to respond to me, how can I have him explain anything? I think as far as he is concerned he is done with me.
Deardebra : I feel that he is trying to cope with losing you and her coming back into his life.
Customer: I think since she is now pretty much a daily part of his life I am out of sight out of mind until she makes a mistake.
Deardebra : I feel that you should tell him how you feel even if he has not respond, but I want to ask you a question.
Deardebra : Now that he has made the decision to try things with her again, are you willing to take him back because I feel he is going to realize he made a mistake.
Customer: I want him back but only if he truly wants me. Am I supposed to just keep waiting for him to realize she is not good for him? What if that never happens and I am sitting here in a constant state of depression?
Customer: I don't want to be a vindictive person but I am at the stage where my mind is telling e to set her up with a decoy to prove to him she will cheat again...sooner than later. I hate that I am thinking these things but I cannot accept that this is really over.
Deardebra : This is why you need to tell him how you feel and some times doing nothing is what is best because she might mess up on her own and you would never want to be caught in the middle. Plus if he found out you set her up to cheat on him he would be angry at you which could end things.
Deardebra : You want to approach this correctly.
Customer: I am afraid she may end up pregnant again if I wait too long to do anything. She has had 6 abortions and 2 kids from 2 dads..obviously she doesn't have a problem conceiving. The thought of that freaks me out.
Deardebra : I want you to tell him how you feel and that you miss him and tell him you hope that there is still a relationship with you and him.
Customer: And if he doesn't bother to answer? or just thinks I am crazy for saying that when I know he said he has to try to work things out with her? Having him reject me yet again will kill me.
Deardebra : The one thing I am worried about is if he knows how you feel.
Deardebra : Some times people think they can not come back because the person would never forgive them.
Deardebra : I want him to know that you are still there and that you would take him back.
Deardebra : Tell him to please answer you if there is nothing left to the relationship so that you can move on.
Deardebra : You need closure and to move on if he is going to try to work things out.
Deardebra : He needs to tell you straight out how he feels and that this relationship is over because if he doesn't then you will keep wondering. He should tell you because he does care about you.