as of right now i have no way of even contacting him and it is so hard for me because i know that she is still showing up to his gigs and i feel like she has won. my husband lost his iphone and she bought him one and its registered under her name
shes taken total control of his facebook and removed all our photos together on his page and she listed herself as in a relationship with him and deleted and blocked me
my husband doesnt know how to work the computer all that well so i know she's the one doing it
its hard for me to know where to start because i feel like i lost everything .. i moved to the city because of my job and all my friends i made over the years all work together and now im not allowed to work their bc the bar owners believe my husband never did anything wrong and when he was arrested for arguing with me in public my boss paid his bail and is paying for a lawyer for him and phoned me the next morning to fire me ..he phoned my mom whos been staying with me so i feel like i have no job marriage out of touch without a phone and without friends
my confidence is so low now because i cant understand how this girl is controlling him in this way and why he obviously feels like this woman has more to offer.. to me at her age she should have enough experience in life to show more integrity than what she is doing. she doesnt have a job and lives in an apartment less than a block away from the club we played at. shes at the club almost every night and I'm not a drinker neither is he we just play where we can as musicians but this girl is more like a groupie of some sort heres a photo she sent me of the two of them
that was us
i dont knowwhen or how to contact him thats the toughest part
It sounds like she has a lot of control over him right now and she could be telling him that you do not care about him.
But you have to wonder if he even knows what she is doing.
You said he is not good at the computer, so he might not even know that she has changed things on his Facebook.
I am sure he doesn't know about her sending that photo either. This is why he has no idea why you are upset because she is doing things to change his opinion of you.
so what can i do
If you could contact your husband if it is ok you need to tell him what is going on. I feel he does not know. That picture was a way of her trying to tell you they are together, but I feel that he knows nothing that is happening.
I am not sure if you can contact him because of what has happened but if you can you need to talk with him as soon as you can.
This has to be solved because you need to know if you have to move on.
You have to make the steps to start a whole new life for yourself.
New friends, new job. I am sure there are so many places looking for talented people in a band where you can start again.
When it comes to a marriage no one should have took sides.
They should have let both of you handle this on your own. He cheated, you didn't do anything for him to cheat on you.
That should have never happened.
He should have apologized and you both should have worked on trying to solve the problem in your marriage, but
things got out of hand.
Him being angry and taking your phone was because he was frustrated that he could not solve the problem so he reacted on emotions.
Yes, it was the wrong emotions.
He should have handled things in a calm manner.
You can not take back the past so this is why there needs to be a solution.
I feel he knows nothing she is doing, so you need to tell him how you feel.
You both need to see if you want to fix this marriage and try again or move on.