I was looking for some further help. I am still in the same situation after almost 4 years that boyfriend just wont make formal committment. He has now promised that the ring he showed me and let me try on he will give me before the endof this year which is September. We will have been together 4 years then and he says he wont go 5. I also am very concerned that he is unable to really show his affection sexually. He always wants me to satisfy him but does not make love to me, he just says jump on if I want to. I do not do that so therefore there is nothing. I think this is totally unacceptable. he kisses me and tells me he loves me and is committed to spend the rest of his life with me but he is reall self centered. He seems to always put his business first. The other day I asked him to come visit me after work and he said he would try but had some issues pressing with work. That was Monday that I asked, Wed he was supposed to come. He never even got back to me. that was so upsetting and disrespectful. I love him, I am not sure I should. Can I have your input please..
Thanks for your reply, I guess what you are saying I thought about as well. This weekend my boyfriend was actually very considerate with flowers and cooking me dinner for mothers day. I just feel that I give so much more to the relationship and am not sure if I would want to live the rest of my life with someone who does not show me the intimacy I need and deserve. We talked about me moving in with him by the end of this year and I gave him a list of what I want before I do that and one of the things was to get engaged others had to do with making space etc at his house. He said he agreed with all of them. He told me this a few weeks ago as well but I am not sure I can believe him since he has been saying he will make a committment and has had that ring in his closet for over 2 years. He never went as far as putting a time frame on it like he is now but this is the last hurrah as far as I am concerned. He will either formally commit and give me the ring or I am done. I promise you. I am hoping that once he does do that he will be more comfortable with showing me the intimacy I desire as well. We shall see. What are your thoughts?
Thanks he says that he is deciding how he wants to propose. He wants to find a special place he does not want to do it at his business which is where he lives or my place or on any other occassion. Lets see , we are going away for a few days fo rhis birthday at he end of June and alsoto the shore for a few days to see a concert mid July. those are both times we would be alone and away from everything. There is a very short rope that I am giving him, if he does not do this soon he is not being honest with me and I am not going to make excuses anymore nor tolerate that. There truly is no reason he should not do it now. I have done so much for him that I am actually embarassed at myself that I have let him put this off for this long, I can believe he would want to either.