One thing that your husband family should do is have someone that has caused so many problems be still on their Facebook.
So people have the wrong impression of her?
Some times people know people do wrong but they want to make excuses for it to almost justify her actions.
It sounds like they do it so they try to keep the peace with her, I think they figure that they will not get anywhere with her if they exclude her all together.
That is another thing is some times you don't have to say anything because people will judge themselves what type of a person she is, when people try to explain themselves about someone else people want to see the good in people but when you tell someone negative things they some times go in the opposite direction and try to see why the person is not nice. But if people figure it out for themselves then they will see who she really is as a person.
So she is lashing out and being mean, you need to point it out in a way to make others see, but almost as if they have to figure it out themselves.
It's hard to make others see how you feel.
The reason is people will always make their own opinions.
I feel that you should not hold anything in and say how you feel because if you hold all this in then it will effect your life in a negative way. You should come right out and tell everyone how you feel. some times if you don't say people form their own opinions.
It is always good to say it in a calm manner so that people will understand how you feel.
When someone passes people often have a new outlook on life. I am sorry for your loss.
I feel like some times people need to hear the truth because things need to be spoken in order for things to get solved.
If you do not speak your mind then it will effect your life.
I want you to talk with your husband again and tell him that you feel things need to be resolved that this really bothers you.
That is the decision you need to think about whether you want bring this back up and if you can trust them to be in your life again.
Yes, I do feel you need closure to move on, so you can heal from what has happened.