I have been dating a woman for a little over a year now. We started talking to each other in the beginning of 2011 off and on and became intimate a couple months before 2012. And since then we have seen a lot of each other but we were still kind of off and on most of 2012. She is married and I am married. We actually have a similar situation both of our spouses were illegal and needed a green. My wife received her green card last year and her husband needs to be interviewed. She has been separated for 6 years from him. I have been separated 3 years from my wife. So I thought we understood each other. LIke I said we have been together for a little over a year and I didn't think we had any major problems or issues. Except for barely seeing each other. SHe lives in LA and I live in San Diego. Not close but close enough. I have been wanting to spend time with her but a lot times she not have time. I cant go to her house because of her Ex and her 2 kids. Ok that's fine I understand. But Ive felt that she doesn't make a lot time for me and her. If I see her its for a few hours or overnight and that's it. In the past its been more consistent. Now its not as consistent because her Ex found out she was dating or seeing me. So he stopped picking up the kids, and everything. So time together is much more limited from before. She has said before this is why I don't have a BF because its always been this way. And I tell her I understand. I just want to see when you have time, let me know. But out of the blue she just comes up with this BS like we argue and we all talkin about the same issues and im thinking WHAT ISSUES?? She literally gets upset with me because I say, what are you doing? or if she happened to go somewhere and she calls from whiles she in the car and says shes going home, I will ask where did you go? SHE WILL GET UPSET!! And she thinks that is an argument. I will say so.... I cant ask where you went, really???? I don't know what to do.... Recently as in last week Tuesday, I took the day off from work and went to see her, she said she couldn't cuz she didn't have gas and had her kids. SHe couldn't take them to school, so I politely said, I will give you gas money so you can take them so I can see you for a lil bit, and once again she had things to do. Ok fine, I just want to see my baby. So we saw each other we were talking for about an hour and half and she had to go. Her birthday was the next day, so before she left we discussed seeing each other in the morning to eat before she went to visit her mom and her friend. No time was discussed, she said we could meet after she drops off her girls. Ok that's cool. Well we didn't talk to each other that Tuesday night. Wednesday morning comes and I wake up early, I sent her a birthday e-card and was waiting for her to msg if she was on her way to the restaurant. SHe never said she was on her way or said she was waiting there already, she text me and I said what time u want to meet, she said now, so I said I will be there in 15 min, and she got upset cuz I wasn't there. She went on to say this always happens, AND THIS NEVER HAPPENS!! we usually have time or we are both communicating but she says its only because she makes it happen!! I just cant believe some of the things she's been saying. Now she doesn't want to be together because she feels fed up, like its always the same issue and that she thinks we are not going anywhere, as if she has been making SO MUCH EFFORT AND SHE HASNT. Right now, shes not changing her mind no matter what I say to her. SHe says we are done. BUt I really do want to be with her. WHat should I do.
Here is the letter I wrote to her.