The second it to find a therapist who can just help you to find your ultimate choice and stick to it.
A therapist of great wisdom and experience, particularly with an existential orientation, if you can find such a therapist, would be idea.
You must make the decision for yourself and stick to it, and if you need outside help to do that, then I urge you to get it.
You might search on www.psychologytoday.com
I wish you great strength and resolve in seeing this through. I shall keep you in my prayers to that end.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
This is such generic feedback... :/ I mentioned how I dislike counsellors and they didn't seem to work; why would you then recommend another counsellor?
Dear XXXXX,I was hoping to direct you to someone who could show you that you are sabotaging your life with very selfish and short-sighted behavior. Since you do not seem to understand subtleties and care only for your short-term interests, I thought that perhaps a better-qualified and stronger therapist could wake you up.Your mind is already made-up and all you want to do is the shoot the messenger. You need to go through this and learn the hard way, and you have already made your mind with your destructive actions.If I have gotten through to you, which I doubt, you are welcome to get back to me.I wish you great success.Warm regardsElliott