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So the love of my life met her kids, her entire family a day

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I honestly feel like she is seeing or has seen another man in conjunction with me. Don't know just a got feeling because before all this stuff came to light she was saying do you really know who I am what if another person credible person told you something about me that was against what I shared with you. I was so messed up the head. So with the love of my life I met her kids, her entire family a day after I met her family she decides to take a 3 day hiatus saying that their is to much information coming into her head from third parties regarding myself and mother of my child long story short I lied to her about the mother of my child living with me. Another thing that got me all weird is that she met a guy she keeps talking about how she loves what he talks about just before all this stuff happened 3 day hiatus and all. She felt the need to keep digging on my stuff even though I told her it wasn't for her. I dont have a relationship whatsoever with the mother of my child just she stays at my place crashing until she can get her own and plus she is the biological mother of my daughter. My girlfriend / break right now is so confusing she told me to ignore her shes being really quiet. So I was ignoring her not being to pushy about the situation we are in lying to her about the mother of my child still living with me. she feels disheartened because she asked me on multiple occasions and I lied on all of them I just knew it wasn't the right time to tell her my mistake though hindsight I should have told her. I feel like shes really hurt but she wont tell me how badly so I wrote her a letter because I really feel like shes not giving me anything to go off just vague remarks about our relationship saying things like for right now our relationship is non existent, or right now I dont know how to feel. I know shes upset but doesn't want to share how she really feels I dont know why just feels like she thinks I'm going to think shes weak or I just dont know cant read her right now. Shes making me really confused by saying things like ignore me via text then I see her the next day and she says oh I only meant ignore me for that moment of the text when I'm thinking she meant overall I really feel like shes stringing me along I guess I dont know. I ask directly and she just closes up and doesn't reveal anything really quiet and not sharing. I want to make things right shes worth my time and without being pushy about the situation I just hate feeling weird / awkward around her I'm really trying to be myself funny what should I do to make her smile and laugh again full of energy like it used to be. I also feel like I'm trying to read her mind all the time but before the situation I was able to gauge now I feel like I cant.

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