Thank you, Jen. I think my fiancee feels (due to a past relationship issue), that she will always be stressed about seeing her daughter because of my feeling and my jealousy toward her ex (which is rather light---but he doesn't ever help it out). I feel it is just inappropriate for her to stay there...NOT because of seeing her daughter. She should. My most overwhelming problem now may be deciding what to do/how to feel if she doesn't mention it again and/or just decides to stay with them...any advice there?
NOW there is one additional thing....and I think it is breaking us up. My fiancee has now called me and told me her other daughter has come. It is a long story, but they are in the military and are very soon moving overseas and cannot stay off base for more than 7 days. Anyway, she called to tell me this. I DID tell her that is good for her (she she won't see much of her daughter and toddler granddaughter for 3 years now). But, damn. It is hard now thinking of the whole "old family" together. Her ex told her he would spend the nights at his girlfriends house....and I begrudgingly agreed to that. Well, the way my fiancee is talking...that is probably not going to happen now. She is insanely mad that I am trying to ruin her time, keep her from her daughter who she has precious little time left with, cannot understand my unreasonable feelings, asked me "even if I got a hotel, I wouldn't be hanging with them there. Where do you think I would BE during the day?", wished I would have just kept it to myself to not ruin her time...it goes on and on. She even told me she will never forget/forgive this. I want to this to work out in the end...but I don't think it can. Any suggestions at all? Thanks.